So now I have some questions for ya'll in this forum about the younger difficult children. I'll start with the youngest. Boogerman has a couple of things that I'm trying to figure out on what to do about and how to handle. The first is peeing all over the floor and toilet seat. He is 13 and still doing it. We have been after him for years about this. He used to poop in his pants and sometimes there was pee too. He has gotten better about the poo and pee there. Only on rare occasion is there pee and the poo seems to be more related to not wiping properly, not for lack of being taught either. He will be all over the floor all around the toilet and sometimes in the area slightly away from the toilet as well so it's more then "just missing". We've tried everything from having everyone just leaving the seat up (which the girls resent but relented to just to try to curb some of it). He most of the time refuses to clean up the mess he makes too. It becomes a fight to get him to do it. The other issue we have (we actually have a lot of issues in this house and with everyone but I'm trying to focus on a few) is that he has been stealing the girls bras, well mainly the younger difficult child's bras now. It's been going on now for about 4 years. Some times we've caught him stealing camisoles, silky night gowns, swimsuits, older difficult child/easy child thong/underwear, etc. Usually very girly type articles. I've tried talking to him repeatedly of why he does it. We are a very open and understanding household so he knows that if it's because he feels "female" or "gay" or anything like that it's ok. The girls have even offered up a bra specifically for him to curb him from taking others but it didn't really help. I "think" it has slowed down slightly from the level it used to be but he's still doing it. We've found them hidden in the bathroom, he's put them on and gone in the bathtub and "swum' with the bathing suits, sometimes the underwear I believe. We usually find the bras tucked alongside his bed or under his pillow. There doesn't seem to be evidence that he is "using" them for any "boy" objectification (if you get what I mean). One time he gave me an excuse that he liked to put them on his pillow to "sleep" on but I don't believe that as I've never seen evidence of that at all and you have to understand that he "has to be" put to bed and he "has to be" woken up in the morning so we'd see it as we also go in his room at night. Only once did I ever catch him with anything on and it was a camisole. I do believe it may have to do with the feeling of it as he does have serious sensory issues and likes the feel of certain things. He has furry blankets that he has always needed and many times when his anxieties fun high he seeks out certain sensory items. But I don't think that has anything to do with the bras as they are not really silky or touch friendly in my opinion. He also is not very "feminine" in any other way in his mannerisms at all. It's all very confusing. As for difficult child 14 yo daughter, her issues are just so complex and all encompassing. Just too many. We've all been trying to pick them all apart for years to figure out just how to identify what all is wrong. Let's just say she has the house held hostage by them all! Any thoughts on Boogerman? Anyone have any experience with what he's doing and why?