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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 151323" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>I think your husband knows in his heart that he has to let go. Learning this lesson is the same as all the other lessons your son learned in life. It's just a more difficult lesson, because this is where he gets to choose the kind of person he is going to be.</p><p></p><p>You may have helped him with his first steps, but one day you had to let him go. If you hadn't let go, and held his hand forever, he'd never develop that skill and he would be a cripple. Just as now if you don't let him go he will forever be an emotional cripple clinging to your husband to make all of his decisions for him and to take all of the blame when he fails. We all fail at some point in our lives. Sometimes it's small, (forgot your homework at home) and often it's huge (didn't do homework for months and got kicked out of school) . Who is your son blaming for his trouble at school? Is he taking that upon himself, or is it your fault because you didn't (insert lame excuse here)? </p><p></p><p>It's time for your son to make his own mistakes and man up to them. I don't think I can tell you anything that husband doesn't already know in his heart. He has to let your son grow into his own man. I don't know if these are his words or if you are passing along his intent:</p><p></p><p>"He (husband) has also stated recently that he doesn't want to "give up" on difficult child until he gets through to him."</p><p></p><p>He needs to rethink that. I see what he means, but in reality it doesn't make a lick of sense.</p><p></p><p>With my kids I was the one who never wanted to give up until they figured it out. In reality I was just holding them back. </p><p></p><p>Good luck!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 151323, member: 99"] I think your husband knows in his heart that he has to let go. Learning this lesson is the same as all the other lessons your son learned in life. It's just a more difficult lesson, because this is where he gets to choose the kind of person he is going to be. You may have helped him with his first steps, but one day you had to let him go. If you hadn't let go, and held his hand forever, he'd never develop that skill and he would be a cripple. Just as now if you don't let him go he will forever be an emotional cripple clinging to your husband to make all of his decisions for him and to take all of the blame when he fails. We all fail at some point in our lives. Sometimes it's small, (forgot your homework at home) and often it's huge (didn't do homework for months and got kicked out of school) . Who is your son blaming for his trouble at school? Is he taking that upon himself, or is it your fault because you didn't (insert lame excuse here)? It's time for your son to make his own mistakes and man up to them. I don't think I can tell you anything that husband doesn't already know in his heart. He has to let your son grow into his own man. I don't know if these are his words or if you are passing along his intent: "He (husband) has also stated recently that he doesn't want to "give up" on difficult child until he gets through to him." He needs to rethink that. I see what he means, but in reality it doesn't make a lick of sense. With my kids I was the one who never wanted to give up until they figured it out. In reality I was just holding them back. Good luck! [/QUOTE]
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