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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 151410" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>Does it have to be "all or nothing?". </p><p>Isn't there something in between. If he is unable to learn basic life skills and he thinks like a 13 yr old I would have a hard time putting him on the street. I won't do it. I can't do it. </p><p>I do understand that there are many situations where that is the best alternative but I have a kid(man) who wouldn't be able to find the bus stop let alone a place to stay. No way will I do that but I can't live with him.</p><p>Group homes, foster placement, any other sort of supervised living. I doubt my son will ever have the basic skills necessary to lead an independent life. It's not his fault. He was born with the crappy end of the gene pool. </p><p>It would be the same as putting a kid out with Down's syndrome. </p><p>So your husband and you will have to look at what your difficult child has the ability to do and what he doesn't. My son has been tutored in math since 2nd grade. He still can't make change. He isn't going to learn it at 23. It's not because he isn't trying. He is missing key elements to function. </p><p></p><p>If your son is stealing, lying, drugging then putting him out in some sort of homeless youth organization may be the tough love he needs. Tossing him on the street is something only you can decide to do for your own difficult child. It's very difficult child specific. in my humble opinion.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 151410, member: 3"] Does it have to be "all or nothing?". Isn't there something in between. If he is unable to learn basic life skills and he thinks like a 13 yr old I would have a hard time putting him on the street. I won't do it. I can't do it. I do understand that there are many situations where that is the best alternative but I have a kid(man) who wouldn't be able to find the bus stop let alone a place to stay. No way will I do that but I can't live with him. Group homes, foster placement, any other sort of supervised living. I doubt my son will ever have the basic skills necessary to lead an independent life. It's not his fault. He was born with the crappy end of the gene pool. It would be the same as putting a kid out with Down's syndrome. So your husband and you will have to look at what your difficult child has the ability to do and what he doesn't. My son has been tutored in math since 2nd grade. He still can't make change. He isn't going to learn it at 23. It's not because he isn't trying. He is missing key elements to function. If your son is stealing, lying, drugging then putting him out in some sort of homeless youth organization may be the tough love he needs. Tossing him on the street is something only you can decide to do for your own difficult child. It's very difficult child specific. in my humble opinion. [/QUOTE]
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