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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 151536" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Wow - there really are a lot of different thoughts here, and interestingly enough - I think that is your answer. What is right for some, is not right for others. </p><p> </p><p>Our goal was to have him be self-sufficient. We have set up ongoing goals, short term goals that are VERY easy to achieve even if he were profoundly disabled in hopes that enough goals attained will build confidence and self-reliance. </p><p> </p><p>At least pushing Dude to be self-sufficient now? We'll ALL know if he's able to make it or find some self-reliant life skills that he otherwise wouldn't have known he had. If he doesn't make it now? Then we'll be able to readjust and put a new plan into place that reassesses Dude's goals with additional help. For now I'm okay with seeing if Dude can make it outside my walls at age 17. </p><p> </p><p>If you're asking if I would just pack his junk and put him on the corner with no where to go? No. Not at 17. It's gotten that bad in our home, but we've always suffered through until an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) had a bed available. Dude will be 18 in a few months and already he's figuring out that at 18 - you had better get your mess together because services don't last forever. </p><p> </p><p>Just the fact that he's able to discern that? Tells almost everyone concerned in his care that he IS able to do some things for himself - he's just lazy. Those things that he can't or never will get? We'll work with those ongoing.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 151536, member: 4964"] Wow - there really are a lot of different thoughts here, and interestingly enough - I think that is your answer. What is right for some, is not right for others. Our goal was to have him be self-sufficient. We have set up ongoing goals, short term goals that are VERY easy to achieve even if he were profoundly disabled in hopes that enough goals attained will build confidence and self-reliance. At least pushing Dude to be self-sufficient now? We'll ALL know if he's able to make it or find some self-reliant life skills that he otherwise wouldn't have known he had. If he doesn't make it now? Then we'll be able to readjust and put a new plan into place that reassesses Dude's goals with additional help. For now I'm okay with seeing if Dude can make it outside my walls at age 17. If you're asking if I would just pack his junk and put him on the corner with no where to go? No. Not at 17. It's gotten that bad in our home, but we've always suffered through until an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) had a bed available. Dude will be 18 in a few months and already he's figuring out that at 18 - you had better get your mess together because services don't last forever. Just the fact that he's able to discern that? Tells almost everyone concerned in his care that he IS able to do some things for himself - he's just lazy. Those things that he can't or never will get? We'll work with those ongoing. [/QUOTE]
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