husband's dad is in ICU. Some of you will recall that his mom died in Dec. just have difficult child went to rehab. husband is a tender hearted soul who is full of love and very emotional. With difficult child is jail, PCson fighting for his marriage and family (with someone who thinks she'd rather be a single mom, the death of his mother, and twelve years of taking care of his dad who is in a vegatative coma---I'm worried about him. He just can't seem to detach from difficult child. He talks to him every night and visits every visit. It is making him suffer to see his son suffer. I feel for him and try to help him see that difficult child needs to stay where he is until the judge lets him out. I have the money to post bail, but it is earmarked for other things. PCdaughter wants to go away to school in the fall. PCson has a job offer and will probably be back to work before long, but he may need some assitance to fight for his son if daughter in law decides to leave. We have spent sooooooo much fighting for difficult child over the years, and I feel like the others need us too. I feel like the bad guy. I always have to be tough---stay sane---carry the load. Pray that he can hold up under all of this pressure---and I don't have to carry him too.