Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Needing to stay strong, feeling like a horrible person. :(
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="WLS" data-source="post: 749521" data-attributes="member: 24119"><p>Thank you ALL for your thoughts and support. I can't explain how helpful all of your wonderful advice and thoughts are.While I am struggling with feeling bad for her, at the same time I truly have no guilt as I know in heart that I have exhausted anything I can do for her.</p><p></p><p>[USER=13542]@recoveringenabler[/USER] - In my move I ran across my copy of Codependent No More and it was one of only ten books I chose to keep! I will be digging it out and re-reading it. It is an excellent read and in my opinion it should be on everyone's must read short list.</p><p></p><p>I have decided that she will NOT be staying her this next week while we are away as I agree it may open a bigger can of worms and my good intentions will run amuck.</p><p></p><p><u>I texted her yesterday:</u></p><p>Me: " I have not heard from you in a while, I hope things are going well for you".</p><p>Her: " I honestly don't know what you expect me say about that".</p><p></p><p>I did not reply as I am just trying to stay in contact without offer of assistance or advice. I couldn't even if I wanted to. I have been out of work since February due to an accident. And I am certainly NOT asking my fiance to start paying for her stuff especially when she has not even ever wanted to meet the man! Then at 9:30 last night she texted again......."</p><p></p><p>Her: " I am probably going to jail soon as I have nowhere to go and I keep being chased away from every parking lot and if I get caught one more time people will be calling the police to arrest me. <u><em>Hope this makes you happy, throwing me in the trash. </em></u></p><p></p><p>I have NOT replied. I am sorry for her situation but it is NOT my problem and I won't fall into the trap of her trying to make me feel guilty. I honestly don't. Do I feel bad for her that she hasn't found her own way, yes. Guilty, NO !</p><p></p><p>You all are so awesome and I am so happy to have stumbled upon this forum!</p><p></p><p>Thank you, THank YOu, THANK YOU! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WLS, post: 749521, member: 24119"] Thank you ALL for your thoughts and support. I can't explain how helpful all of your wonderful advice and thoughts are.While I am struggling with feeling bad for her, at the same time I truly have no guilt as I know in heart that I have exhausted anything I can do for her. [USER=13542]@recoveringenabler[/USER] - In my move I ran across my copy of Codependent No More and it was one of only ten books I chose to keep! I will be digging it out and re-reading it. It is an excellent read and in my opinion it should be on everyone's must read short list. I have decided that she will NOT be staying her this next week while we are away as I agree it may open a bigger can of worms and my good intentions will run amuck. [U]I texted her yesterday:[/U] Me: " I have not heard from you in a while, I hope things are going well for you". Her: " I honestly don't know what you expect me say about that". I did not reply as I am just trying to stay in contact without offer of assistance or advice. I couldn't even if I wanted to. I have been out of work since February due to an accident. And I am certainly NOT asking my fiance to start paying for her stuff especially when she has not even ever wanted to meet the man! Then at 9:30 last night she texted again......." Her: " I am probably going to jail soon as I have nowhere to go and I keep being chased away from every parking lot and if I get caught one more time people will be calling the police to arrest me. [U][I]Hope this makes you happy, throwing me in the trash. [/I][/U] I have NOT replied. I am sorry for her situation but it is NOT my problem and I won't fall into the trap of her trying to make me feel guilty. I honestly don't. Do I feel bad for her that she hasn't found her own way, yes. Guilty, NO ! You all are so awesome and I am so happy to have stumbled upon this forum! Thank you, THank YOu, THANK YOU! :) [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Needing to stay strong, feeling like a horrible person. :(
Top