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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 410830" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>FB, I completely agree with the others. It doesn't sound horrible that you want difficult child out of your house. It sounds to me like you're worn completely down and you need to do something lest you fall apart.</p><p></p><p>I hope that this time CPS etc. are able to find the right sort of help and supports for difficult child and for you. I also think that if not talking to or doing anything for difficult child got the message across to her in the short term, it might be worth trying that for a bit longer. Even if it doesn't get through to difficult child, if it eases the burden on you then that's a good thing in its own right.</p><p></p><p>Before my difficult child's first Residential Treatment Center (RTC) placement 3 years ago, I instituted what I call "minimal interaction". I was so stressed and depressed by him, his behaviour and the toll on our family that I just pulled back all the way. I didn't initiate any interactions, and offered only 1 or 2 word responses. Hid out in my bedroom for days on end if that's what it took to minimize contact. I just needed to be away. difficult child did get the message, and even all these years later he still remembers. If he starts to cross a line with me, I cut off communication -- it pulls him up short and he starts toe-ing the line again.</p><p></p><p>I wonder if something like that might work with you and your difficult child. Feel free to PM me if you want more details. I've given only the bare bones of it here.</p><p></p><p>Trinity</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 410830, member: 3907"] FB, I completely agree with the others. It doesn't sound horrible that you want difficult child out of your house. It sounds to me like you're worn completely down and you need to do something lest you fall apart. I hope that this time CPS etc. are able to find the right sort of help and supports for difficult child and for you. I also think that if not talking to or doing anything for difficult child got the message across to her in the short term, it might be worth trying that for a bit longer. Even if it doesn't get through to difficult child, if it eases the burden on you then that's a good thing in its own right. Before my difficult child's first Residential Treatment Center (RTC) placement 3 years ago, I instituted what I call "minimal interaction". I was so stressed and depressed by him, his behaviour and the toll on our family that I just pulled back all the way. I didn't initiate any interactions, and offered only 1 or 2 word responses. Hid out in my bedroom for days on end if that's what it took to minimize contact. I just needed to be away. difficult child did get the message, and even all these years later he still remembers. If he starts to cross a line with me, I cut off communication -- it pulls him up short and he starts toe-ing the line again. I wonder if something like that might work with you and your difficult child. Feel free to PM me if you want more details. I've given only the bare bones of it here. Trinity [/QUOTE]
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