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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 384720" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>Hi Allan,</p><p> I must say that as much as I appreciate the "Welcome To Holland" essay that it is a bit simplistic and somewhat misleading. Personally, I appreciate unique perspective and thinking "out of the box" but if Holland is unable to hold it's own in the world events, it will be left behind or at the mercy of those countries that are insistent that their way is the only way. As a parent of a child who took me to Holland and a few other countries, I want to make sure he has the ability and weapons to protect himself and have as much of an independent life as his ability allows. Acceptance of their uniqueness does not mean we sit back and think "oh well, he is unique". We have much more work than those who go directly to Italy. </p><p> Negative thoughts are wasted energy. I never said "why me?". Why not me? I get no special favors. You get what you get. The challenge is whether we rise to help our children or plead victim. In my mind,as a parent we must help guide them to a law abiding, tax paying, moral adult with as much independence as possible. Reality is different than negative thoughts. Being a child who goes off course to Holland may be discovering new lands. I'm all for it but many get lost if they are not equipped with tools to navigate. Some may say that a parent is negative but they may be realistic. </p><p> </p><p> Thank you for this post. It made me stop and really think about how I feel. I knew I never really cared for the "Welcome to Holland" essay but I don't think I really thought about why it didn't describe my mindset.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 384720, member: 3"] Hi Allan, I must say that as much as I appreciate the "Welcome To Holland" essay that it is a bit simplistic and somewhat misleading. Personally, I appreciate unique perspective and thinking "out of the box" but if Holland is unable to hold it's own in the world events, it will be left behind or at the mercy of those countries that are insistent that their way is the only way. As a parent of a child who took me to Holland and a few other countries, I want to make sure he has the ability and weapons to protect himself and have as much of an independent life as his ability allows. Acceptance of their uniqueness does not mean we sit back and think "oh well, he is unique". We have much more work than those who go directly to Italy. Negative thoughts are wasted energy. I never said "why me?". Why not me? I get no special favors. You get what you get. The challenge is whether we rise to help our children or plead victim. In my mind,as a parent we must help guide them to a law abiding, tax paying, moral adult with as much independence as possible. Reality is different than negative thoughts. Being a child who goes off course to Holland may be discovering new lands. I'm all for it but many get lost if they are not equipped with tools to navigate. Some may say that a parent is negative but they may be realistic. Thank you for this post. It made me stop and really think about how I feel. I knew I never really cared for the "Welcome to Holland" essay but I don't think I really thought about why it didn't describe my mindset. [/QUOTE]
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