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<blockquote data-quote="nvts" data-source="post: 185064" data-attributes="member: 3814"><p>Terry! I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this. I want to point something out here though!</p><p> </p><p>I know you suspect that he's either got Aspergers or is way up there on the spectrum. If he does, he's NOT getting it! It's not feined ignorance, it's not forgetting, it's not refusal to take responsibility, he's just not getting it!</p><p> </p><p>Quite often they don't get that what they do impacts others - whether it be feelings, possessions, sense of security, whatever. Until there's a direct correlation to something that impacts THEM, there's NO CONNECTION! </p><p> </p><p>What may help, is applying the situation to HIM and things that he holds dear and do to him, what he did to the neighbor. For example: say he has a favorite video game. Steal it. If you want, steal it and let him "sort of" catch you in the act. Not quite, but just enough to raise his suspicions. Lie a few times when he confronts you, and then get caught with the evidence. Give it back to him, but deny it and say you don't remember doing it. Let him feel the frustration and aggrivation etc. that you and your neighbor felt. Now you have to draw the obvious picture for him.</p><p> </p><p>"Wow! How did it make you feel"</p><p>You may have to lead the questions or give suggestions as to what he's feeling because some of these kids only recognize anger.</p><p> </p><p>"What were you thinking" "I'll be J next door felt that way" and then work your way all the way out to the whole earning trust routine.</p><p> </p><p>I hope this may help! Otherwise I'd find a friend who has a cop uniform and scare the bejesus out of him!</p><p> </p><p>Beth</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nvts, post: 185064, member: 3814"] Terry! I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this. I want to point something out here though! I know you suspect that he's either got Aspergers or is way up there on the spectrum. If he does, he's NOT getting it! It's not feined ignorance, it's not forgetting, it's not refusal to take responsibility, he's just not getting it! Quite often they don't get that what they do impacts others - whether it be feelings, possessions, sense of security, whatever. Until there's a direct correlation to something that impacts THEM, there's NO CONNECTION! What may help, is applying the situation to HIM and things that he holds dear and do to him, what he did to the neighbor. For example: say he has a favorite video game. Steal it. If you want, steal it and let him "sort of" catch you in the act. Not quite, but just enough to raise his suspicions. Lie a few times when he confronts you, and then get caught with the evidence. Give it back to him, but deny it and say you don't remember doing it. Let him feel the frustration and aggrivation etc. that you and your neighbor felt. Now you have to draw the obvious picture for him. "Wow! How did it make you feel" You may have to lead the questions or give suggestions as to what he's feeling because some of these kids only recognize anger. "What were you thinking" "I'll be J next door felt that way" and then work your way all the way out to the whole earning trust routine. I hope this may help! Otherwise I'd find a friend who has a cop uniform and scare the bejesus out of him! Beth [/QUOTE]
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