We had a neighbor who ACTUALLY stood out on the street at 7 AM and stopped everyone driving to work to ask them to sign her petition that our "party neighbors" who had a pool should stop being loud at night. Sometimes they were loud, but that's when you knock on the door and say, "I'm sorry, but we're trying to sleep and our bedroom is right outside your pool. Can we ask you to keep it down?" Instead, there was the petition, which no one signed. So she got angry and called every single person on the block to say that she was certain that the neighbor's brother was getting the neighbor's teenaged daughter drunk and having sex with her. Oh, my. That is when her life got noisy. Said neighbor was in construction. He and all of his friends would make a point of stopping by in front of her house every night with their diesel pick-up trucks and rev their engines for a minute or so.
I think that the thing with grass or garbage or old mattresses that really gets my goat is that when that happened in the old neighborhood, someone was always ill or out of work or unable to do for themselves - and more often than not if they had asked for help they would have received it. I mean, we always say, "If you need anything let me know." But people never think to say, "I spent all day at the hospital" or "I can't get out of bed since the funeral" ' and I could really use some help. Do you think you could help me get the trash to the dump?' or whatever. Add to that the fact that no one seems to have to common courtesy to go up to a neighbor and say, "I know you're having a really hard time. Would it be helpful if I got the weed-eater out back for you next time I do my lawn?" People talk the talk about being there for each other, but walking the walk rarely seems to happen.
Lisa, if you're having problems that's understandable, would a neighbor help you out? I know that no one likes to ask, but sometimes it's better to swallow your pride than to get on someone's nerves. As far as the mattresses go, I'd be tempted to dump them on the neighbor's lawn this fall. "I can't imagine HOW those got there! We hired a handy-man to tow them away! Are you sure they're ours? We won't have funds to deal with it again until next month. So sorry!"