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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 24737" data-attributes="member: 3"><p><span style='font-size: 11pt'>Giving each mother the benefit of the doubt that they are making the best decisions they can no matter whether I agree or not is usually a fair, wise and kind way to go. </p><p>I really gave up caring about outside opinion on my choices. Many wouldn't understand why I decided to do what I did. I can't be influenced by peer or family pressure. I can't fail my difficult child by popular opinion. If I thought an unpopular intervention would help difficult child(and not hurt him) I would and have done it. I would hope those of you who have walked in the shoes of a mother of a difficult child would give me the benefit of the doubt that I was making the best choice I could. </p><p>It's hard to not pass judgement that someone is falling down on the job or we would make better choices if <em>we</em> were the parent. Yet each of us is here because we are looking for better ways to help our kids and for help to survive the pain that living with a difficult child brings us. </p><p>If you have had success it's easy to think "if it worked for my difficult child it would work for you. The more dangerous thought is "why are they not doing what I'm doing?" Using cookie cutter child rearing is stupid and closed minded. All our kids need unique parenting. I couldn't do as good a job for your kid as you do. You couldn't do a better job raising my difficult child. </p><p>There are days when I say I should never have started down the trail of parenting. Fortunately, they are few and far between. I'm committed to doing the best I can for my difficult child and I know in my heart that each of you will do what's best for your difficult child. Hopefully we are smart enough to not follow someone's opinion mindlessly. I don't think that is ever a risk with this group of independent strong minded parents who attend this site. Look at what your child needs and don't worry about who or what thinks about it.</p><p>I hope you never have to make the choices I have had to make or Linda, or Janna or slsh (and many others) but if you do, I am pretty sure we would be the first to offer a gentle understanding that you are doing the best you can. </p><p>It's dangerous to have a mindset that you are going to offer instructions on how to save someone else's difficult child. I'm still working on saving my own family. I don't have any clue how you should save yours. </span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 24737, member: 3"] <span style='font-size: 11pt'>Giving each mother the benefit of the doubt that they are making the best decisions they can no matter whether I agree or not is usually a fair, wise and kind way to go. I really gave up caring about outside opinion on my choices. Many wouldn't understand why I decided to do what I did. I can't be influenced by peer or family pressure. I can't fail my difficult child by popular opinion. If I thought an unpopular intervention would help difficult child(and not hurt him) I would and have done it. I would hope those of you who have walked in the shoes of a mother of a difficult child would give me the benefit of the doubt that I was making the best choice I could. It's hard to not pass judgement that someone is falling down on the job or we would make better choices if [i]we[/i] were the parent. Yet each of us is here because we are looking for better ways to help our kids and for help to survive the pain that living with a difficult child brings us. If you have had success it's easy to think "if it worked for my difficult child it would work for you. The more dangerous thought is "why are they not doing what I'm doing?" Using cookie cutter child rearing is stupid and closed minded. All our kids need unique parenting. I couldn't do as good a job for your kid as you do. You couldn't do a better job raising my difficult child. There are days when I say I should never have started down the trail of parenting. Fortunately, they are few and far between. I'm committed to doing the best I can for my difficult child and I know in my heart that each of you will do what's best for your difficult child. Hopefully we are smart enough to not follow someone's opinion mindlessly. I don't think that is ever a risk with this group of independent strong minded parents who attend this site. Look at what your child needs and don't worry about who or what thinks about it. I hope you never have to make the choices I have had to make or Linda, or Janna or slsh (and many others) but if you do, I am pretty sure we would be the first to offer a gentle understanding that you are doing the best you can. It's dangerous to have a mindset that you are going to offer instructions on how to save someone else's difficult child. I'm still working on saving my own family. I don't have any clue how you should save yours. </span> [/QUOTE]
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