difficult child had an appointment with the therapist last Saturday. When I was in the room I told the therapist that difficult child has a fairly good week, but we need to work on his aggression. Whenever he does not get his way, with either easy child or me, he resorts to abusive language and physical aggression. I'm sick of it.
Fast forward through the week and difficult child has has a really good week (so far). He's been patient and asked me for help three times when he was have a problem with easy child. One time I told him that he could not have his way, but the other two we worked to make the outcome satisfactory to everyone. Yesterday I sent a text to the therapist and asked what he said to difficult child. He said that he explained to him that when there is a problem between difficult child and someone else, when difficult child chooses to react with aggression he will lose. Every. Single. Time. Even if he is right about something, he will always be looked at as being in the wrong because he got aggressive. He also said that in a way, he was allowing easy child to control the outcome because easy child knows that he will never get punished when difficult child threw the first punch.
I never thought of it that way. Will it last? Who knows! I'll take the good days as they come and recharge so that I can be ready for the bad ones.
Fast forward through the week and difficult child has has a really good week (so far). He's been patient and asked me for help three times when he was have a problem with easy child. One time I told him that he could not have his way, but the other two we worked to make the outcome satisfactory to everyone. Yesterday I sent a text to the therapist and asked what he said to difficult child. He said that he explained to him that when there is a problem between difficult child and someone else, when difficult child chooses to react with aggression he will lose. Every. Single. Time. Even if he is right about something, he will always be looked at as being in the wrong because he got aggressive. He also said that in a way, he was allowing easy child to control the outcome because easy child knows that he will never get punished when difficult child threw the first punch.
I never thought of it that way. Will it last? Who knows! I'll take the good days as they come and recharge so that I can be ready for the bad ones.