Hello all, I am also new here and just stumbled upon this site out of shear desperation for advice, insight, or maybe to feel as if I am not alone. I am married to a wonderful man and together we have 7 children, the typical his, mine and ours! As if that isn't enough, most of these kids have some issue or another, though none affect me as badly as my oldest daughter. She is about to turn 12 and over the last several years she has been making life very difficult for us. She has a long list of truancy issues (though blessedly we have not been to court yet) and extreme trouble getting along with others. She has recently been diagnosed with ADHD/ODD and possible conduct disorder, though the general symptoms don't fit her. She has very high situational anxiety and a problem forming solid, lasting relationships. The older she gets the nastier she has become. We are in a disastrous and painful for all daily fight to get her to do ANYTHING including attending school. I have not figured out her problem with school now other than it's her way to frustrate me and hurt me. She doesn't care that I can potentially spend time in jail for her refusal to go to school or arrive on time. Her response is "it would only be for a couple of days". She is also a very beautiful and smart child, that makes it all the more difficult to parent her. To date I have tried and failed to find any type of discipline that will affect her or diminish her negative behavior. I am at my wits end and don't know which way is up or down or where to go from here, while I love my daughter intensely, I am not finding myself liking her much lately and that hurts me deeply, it wounds my heart. Any advice or suggestions would be helpful, the support is appreciated.