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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 83791" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Here's my feedback, for what it's worth (and I have a mood disorder too--mostly depression). First of all, I wouldn't be shocked if he was a drug user, even if he swears up and down that he isn't (I had a daughter who did that). If he was already smoking pot IN THE HOUSE my guess is that it wasn't the first time and that he was getting away with it on you two so he got reckless and did it under your nose (been there/done that too). That isn't helping him.</p><p>I'd get a home drug test and spring one on him.</p><p>Secondly, I don't know your son, but bipolar is in the family and that's significant. I don't have a clue if he has bipolar or not, but he is doing some things that kids do when they are very sad. If he's been complaining about depression, I believe him. I was a very VERY depressed teen, but I would temporarily feel better around the "buzz" of my friends. It was when I was alone or under any pressure at all (be it just small pressure) that I fell apart. I didn't cut, but my drug abusing daughter did--at the very least that's a cry for help. At the most it's a serious problem. My daughter claims cutting became addictive and it was hard for her to quit doing it. </p><p>I think his action at ten years old was a big red flag that something was wrong, and I don't blame you for giving into family pressure, but I would stop doing that NOW. They should have no say so over how you treat your son--if they are like my family they'd rather hear "he's manipulating you" rather than "he's mentally ill." I'm again not a doctor--none of us are--but bipolar is very hereditary. It's all over my family tree. Under the circumstances that you have bipolar, I think it would be a great idea to try him on bipolar medication. Psychiatry isn't perfect, but that would make a lot of sense. However, if your son is self-medicating--alcohol or recreational drugs, bipolar medications will not work. He needs to be clean. I would take him to a very good Adolescent Psychiatrist and, if bipolar is mentioned, I'd try the treatment for it. What else do you really believe is causing it? He does seem to have some sort of mood disorder...at any rate, whatever you decide to do, good luck to you and your precious child.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 83791, member: 1550"] Here's my feedback, for what it's worth (and I have a mood disorder too--mostly depression). First of all, I wouldn't be shocked if he was a drug user, even if he swears up and down that he isn't (I had a daughter who did that). If he was already smoking pot IN THE HOUSE my guess is that it wasn't the first time and that he was getting away with it on you two so he got reckless and did it under your nose (been there/done that too). That isn't helping him. I'd get a home drug test and spring one on him. Secondly, I don't know your son, but bipolar is in the family and that's significant. I don't have a clue if he has bipolar or not, but he is doing some things that kids do when they are very sad. If he's been complaining about depression, I believe him. I was a very VERY depressed teen, but I would temporarily feel better around the "buzz" of my friends. It was when I was alone or under any pressure at all (be it just small pressure) that I fell apart. I didn't cut, but my drug abusing daughter did--at the very least that's a cry for help. At the most it's a serious problem. My daughter claims cutting became addictive and it was hard for her to quit doing it. I think his action at ten years old was a big red flag that something was wrong, and I don't blame you for giving into family pressure, but I would stop doing that NOW. They should have no say so over how you treat your son--if they are like my family they'd rather hear "he's manipulating you" rather than "he's mentally ill." I'm again not a doctor--none of us are--but bipolar is very hereditary. It's all over my family tree. Under the circumstances that you have bipolar, I think it would be a great idea to try him on bipolar medication. Psychiatry isn't perfect, but that would make a lot of sense. However, if your son is self-medicating--alcohol or recreational drugs, bipolar medications will not work. He needs to be clean. I would take him to a very good Adolescent Psychiatrist and, if bipolar is mentioned, I'd try the treatment for it. What else do you really believe is causing it? He does seem to have some sort of mood disorder...at any rate, whatever you decide to do, good luck to you and your precious child. [/QUOTE]
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