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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 175431" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>This suggestion will not solve anything medical - you still need to put that at top priority - however, it may help in a way with behaviors:</p><p> </p><p>You mentioned that things seem worse since the loss of the family dog. I would like to share our experience. </p><p> </p><p>I have an 11 yr old boy who last summer experienced a panic attack and went down hill after that. He was diagnosed with deep anxiety. One issue he had was he wanted a dog. Now, my husband and I do not EVER want a dog. We know that the ultimate responsibility of taking care of one would be ours and neither of us wanted that responisibility so no dog in our house. </p><p> </p><p>difficult child would whine about a dog and I was so close to getting one because it got to the point where I did believe he NEEDED one but although I do a lot of things without husband's permission, this is one thing I could not do. There are certain things in a marriage that both do have to agree on. He is adamant about not having a dog (even an outside one). </p><p> </p><p>Our 17 yr old easy child was looking to buy a lap dog - she also has been wanting a pet - a cat did not work out for her. One day she found a bichon friese puppy that she wanted. I allowed her to buy it with the condition that difficult child gets time with it and took her to pick it up. </p><p> </p><p>I knew husband would not be happy, but I also knew difficult child NEEDED a dog in the house (though a bit bigger dog would be a better fit). husband is dealing with it and I can make easy child accountable (It also got her home on curfew because puppy needs to go out every few hours and overnight is her duty). </p><p> </p><p>difficult child was in charge of mornings, they take turns in afternoon/evening, and easy child is in charge overnight. I ended up doing mornings since it was too early for difficult child to be up and I also have to come home at noon sometimes which I absoluetly hate. However, the pay off is HUGE. Having a dog to play with and take care of has done a WORLD of good for difficult child. He does not get as anxious as he use to. I do notice his anxiety levels are not as high.</p><p> </p><p>We found that being bored brings on difficult child's anxiety isssues. The puppy has filled in many many many hours that used to be boring.</p><p> </p><p>Are you looking at replacing the dog? From someone who absolutely hates the responsibility of a pet, I am so glad we have one. Some kids just need a pet. There is something about a living breathing pet who is a playmate that calms the soul.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 175431, member: 5096"] This suggestion will not solve anything medical - you still need to put that at top priority - however, it may help in a way with behaviors: You mentioned that things seem worse since the loss of the family dog. I would like to share our experience. I have an 11 yr old boy who last summer experienced a panic attack and went down hill after that. He was diagnosed with deep anxiety. One issue he had was he wanted a dog. Now, my husband and I do not EVER want a dog. We know that the ultimate responsibility of taking care of one would be ours and neither of us wanted that responisibility so no dog in our house. difficult child would whine about a dog and I was so close to getting one because it got to the point where I did believe he NEEDED one but although I do a lot of things without husband's permission, this is one thing I could not do. There are certain things in a marriage that both do have to agree on. He is adamant about not having a dog (even an outside one). Our 17 yr old easy child was looking to buy a lap dog - she also has been wanting a pet - a cat did not work out for her. One day she found a bichon friese puppy that she wanted. I allowed her to buy it with the condition that difficult child gets time with it and took her to pick it up. I knew husband would not be happy, but I also knew difficult child NEEDED a dog in the house (though a bit bigger dog would be a better fit). husband is dealing with it and I can make easy child accountable (It also got her home on curfew because puppy needs to go out every few hours and overnight is her duty). difficult child was in charge of mornings, they take turns in afternoon/evening, and easy child is in charge overnight. I ended up doing mornings since it was too early for difficult child to be up and I also have to come home at noon sometimes which I absoluetly hate. However, the pay off is HUGE. Having a dog to play with and take care of has done a WORLD of good for difficult child. He does not get as anxious as he use to. I do notice his anxiety levels are not as high. We found that being bored brings on difficult child's anxiety isssues. The puppy has filled in many many many hours that used to be boring. Are you looking at replacing the dog? From someone who absolutely hates the responsibility of a pet, I am so glad we have one. Some kids just need a pet. There is something about a living breathing pet who is a playmate that calms the soul. [/QUOTE]
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