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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 220659" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Amy, get thy kid to a neuropsychologist! They have them at children's and univeristy hospitals. This kid has so many red flags for a spectrum child that I would not delay. Even the asking to kiss the girl is so inappropriate and smacks of having no social understanding, which is what Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) is. ADHD kids do know some boundaries. I know many kids with ADHD. This is way out of the norm. Lack of eye contact is classic. Since there is really no good history on this child, you're in the same boat as I was--our son was adopted, but his birthmother had done drugs during her pregnancy. And if she did drugs during her pregnancy (they were found in HIS system at his birth) well, it's pretty much a given that she didn't say "no" to alcohol. Kids exposed to substances in utero have a much higher rate of autism. They can also have fetal alcohol effects, however he doesn't sound THAT bad (take a big breath of relief). Autism spectrum really responds well to interventions, but he has to get them. And first he needs to see a neuropsychologist and you need to sit down with Dad and hear the results of the testing. NeuroPsychs will do intensive testing for from 6-10 hours. My son was testing for ten hours at two hour increments and I don't think the testing missed a trick. After that, we got on track with our son and he is like a different kid now that everybody is helping him with his Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) and now that he knows we understand him. To me it's a little disturbing that your hub doesn't know and/or doesn't share the history of this child with you. I think you should know everything. Certainly he must know if his boy had a speech delay, even if the child is not his biological son. </p><p>Before you decide you have a bad, deliberately out-of-control kid who is also a budding sex pervert (just kidding), please have him evaluated. I think you'll be surprised, relieved, and in a much better place, as will the child and your hub. Now if this child was ever sexually molested AND has autistic spectrum, wow. He may act out and just think it's normal. If he hasn't been sexually molested, then you have to text book teach him about good and bad touching, like he is much younger. My girlfriend's Aspie son touched a girl's breast and didn't know it was wrong. The girl was very understanding and talked to him and then my friend also talked to him and he never touched a girl inappropriately again. These are the little things that our "differently wired" kids may NOT pick up like most kids do. Please test him. You don't have to love him unconditionally right now, but help him. Call a neuropsychologist. Take care.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 220659, member: 1550"] Amy, get thy kid to a neuropsychologist! They have them at children's and univeristy hospitals. This kid has so many red flags for a spectrum child that I would not delay. Even the asking to kiss the girl is so inappropriate and smacks of having no social understanding, which is what Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) is. ADHD kids do know some boundaries. I know many kids with ADHD. This is way out of the norm. Lack of eye contact is classic. Since there is really no good history on this child, you're in the same boat as I was--our son was adopted, but his birthmother had done drugs during her pregnancy. And if she did drugs during her pregnancy (they were found in HIS system at his birth) well, it's pretty much a given that she didn't say "no" to alcohol. Kids exposed to substances in utero have a much higher rate of autism. They can also have fetal alcohol effects, however he doesn't sound THAT bad (take a big breath of relief). Autism spectrum really responds well to interventions, but he has to get them. And first he needs to see a neuropsychologist and you need to sit down with Dad and hear the results of the testing. NeuroPsychs will do intensive testing for from 6-10 hours. My son was testing for ten hours at two hour increments and I don't think the testing missed a trick. After that, we got on track with our son and he is like a different kid now that everybody is helping him with his Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) and now that he knows we understand him. To me it's a little disturbing that your hub doesn't know and/or doesn't share the history of this child with you. I think you should know everything. Certainly he must know if his boy had a speech delay, even if the child is not his biological son. Before you decide you have a bad, deliberately out-of-control kid who is also a budding sex pervert (just kidding), please have him evaluated. I think you'll be surprised, relieved, and in a much better place, as will the child and your hub. Now if this child was ever sexually molested AND has autistic spectrum, wow. He may act out and just think it's normal. If he hasn't been sexually molested, then you have to text book teach him about good and bad touching, like he is much younger. My girlfriend's Aspie son touched a girl's breast and didn't know it was wrong. The girl was very understanding and talked to him and then my friend also talked to him and he never touched a girl inappropriately again. These are the little things that our "differently wired" kids may NOT pick up like most kids do. Please test him. You don't have to love him unconditionally right now, but help him. Call a neuropsychologist. Take care. [/QUOTE]
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