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<blockquote data-quote="allie80" data-source="post: 161189" data-attributes="member: 5374"><p><span style="font-family: 'Tahoma'"><span style="font-size: 12px">Hi! My name is Allie and I am pretty much strung out...LOL. </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Tahoma'"><span style="font-size: 12px">My son TJ is 3 and I would like to share our story and get some feedback if I could. </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Tahoma'"><span style="font-size: 12px">I just recently heard about O.D.D. and it struck a chord with me because TJ is so so so so very defiant. I started taking notice this week of his behavior and then I decided to do my own research. </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Tahoma'"><span style="font-size: 12px">On the AACAP website, these are the following symptoms of a child with O.D.D.: </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Tahoma'">In children with Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD), there is an ongoing pattern of uncooperative, defiant, and hostile behavior toward authority figures that seriously interferes with the youngster's day to day functioning. Symptoms of ODD may include:</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Tahoma'">frequent temper tantrums </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Tahoma'">excessive arguing with adults </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Tahoma'">active defiance and refusal to comply with adult requests and rules </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Tahoma'">deliberate attempts to annoy or upset people </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Tahoma'">blaming others for his or her mistakes or misbehavior </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Tahoma'">often being touchy or easily annoyed by others </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Tahoma'">frequent anger and resentment </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Tahoma'">mean and hateful talking when upset </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Tahoma'">seeking revenge </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Tahoma'">Before I read the list, I thought, nah...just a boy, right (because that is what they always seem to say!)? HE HAS ALL OF THESE SYMPTOMS. And because I took notice and really watched him this week, I realized just how defiant he is and where we both (all) get frustrated. </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Tahoma'">Side note: The harder part is that Emma, my 2 year old, copies him. </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Tahoma'">He does all of these to the maximum. He does not listen, disregards rules, directions, constant running, high energy - (which is fine but when I need him to do something or eat or just LISTEN, he will not do it. He is constantly being crazy.) </span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Tahoma'"><span style="font-size: 12px">He would not stay in his classroom Sunday at church! They had to call me to come get him. He was physically running out of the room. He doesn't follow the rules at gym class even when the teacher is one on one with him as well. He has been jumping our back fence and taking off out the front door. No amount of getting on his level is working. Timeouts, spankings, taking away gym class, nothing works. Its like he has no concept of discipline even though I try to be on him. Its embarassing for one thing but mostly frustrating. </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Tahoma'">The blatant disregard of following rules just astounds me. I will go through something with him, down on his level, calm, cool....and not ONE second later, he will be up and running and doing what I just explained to him not to do. Its like he doesn't hear me at all. And my husband Travis - well he acts like Travis isn't talking to him at all as well. </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Tahoma'">I would LOVE to say it is normal but after coming home after being away for a few days (I visited friends by myself! muuucchhh needed!!) and actively observing him and to know that he carries all the symptoms of it makes me want to CRY!!!!!!!!</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Tahoma'">I honestly do not know what to do. He is such a love when he wants to be but I am losing it half the time because the boy just won't listen. </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Tahoma'">So, I would love to hear some advice. I am going to be contacting a specialist that my dr had recommended at his last appointment. I had asked if it was normal for his behavior for some of the things he was doing and that was back in January. The dr didn't seem concerned because TJ communicates well and didn't seem to be shy or have speech problems, etc. *I didn't pursue it because the dr was not at all concerned.</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Tahoma'">Please let me know if you can help me in any way. I am willing to do whatever (I am not a fan of medication at the age of 3) but I do know there is some therapy offered and so on. </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-family: 'Tahoma'"><span style="font-size: 12px">Thank you for taking the time to read this. I truly appreciate it. You all seem like such a great group from some of the posts I had read. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Tahoma'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Tahoma'">Allie </span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="allie80, post: 161189, member: 5374"] [FONT=Tahoma][SIZE=3]Hi! My name is Allie and I am pretty much strung out...LOL. [/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Tahoma][SIZE=3]My son TJ is 3 and I would like to share our story and get some feedback if I could. [/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Tahoma][SIZE=3]I just recently heard about O.D.D. and it struck a chord with me because TJ is so so so so very defiant. I started taking notice this week of his behavior and then I decided to do my own research. [/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Tahoma][SIZE=3]On the AACAP website, these are the following symptoms of a child with O.D.D.: [/SIZE][/FONT] [SIZE=3][FONT=Tahoma]In children with Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD), there is an ongoing pattern of uncooperative, defiant, and hostile behavior toward authority figures that seriously interferes with the youngster's day to day functioning. Symptoms of ODD may include:[/FONT][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][FONT=Tahoma]frequent temper tantrums [/FONT][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][FONT=Tahoma]excessive arguing with adults [/FONT][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][FONT=Tahoma]active defiance and refusal to comply with adult requests and rules [/FONT][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][FONT=Tahoma]deliberate attempts to annoy or upset people [/FONT][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][FONT=Tahoma]blaming others for his or her mistakes or misbehavior [/FONT][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][FONT=Tahoma]often being touchy or easily annoyed by others [/FONT][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][FONT=Tahoma]frequent anger and resentment [/FONT][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][FONT=Tahoma]mean and hateful talking when upset [/FONT][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][FONT=Tahoma]seeking revenge [/FONT][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][FONT=Tahoma]Before I read the list, I thought, nah...just a boy, right (because that is what they always seem to say!)? HE HAS ALL OF THESE SYMPTOMS. And because I took notice and really watched him this week, I realized just how defiant he is and where we both (all) get frustrated. [/FONT][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][FONT=Tahoma]Side note: The harder part is that Emma, my 2 year old, copies him. [/FONT][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][FONT=Tahoma]He does all of these to the maximum. He does not listen, disregards rules, directions, constant running, high energy - (which is fine but when I need him to do something or eat or just LISTEN, he will not do it. He is constantly being crazy.) [/FONT][/SIZE] [FONT=Tahoma][SIZE=3]He would not stay in his classroom Sunday at church! They had to call me to come get him. He was physically running out of the room. He doesn't follow the rules at gym class even when the teacher is one on one with him as well. He has been jumping our back fence and taking off out the front door. No amount of getting on his level is working. Timeouts, spankings, taking away gym class, nothing works. Its like he has no concept of discipline even though I try to be on him. Its embarassing for one thing but mostly frustrating. [/SIZE][/FONT] [SIZE=3][FONT=Tahoma]The blatant disregard of following rules just astounds me. I will go through something with him, down on his level, calm, cool....and not ONE second later, he will be up and running and doing what I just explained to him not to do. Its like he doesn't hear me at all. And my husband Travis - well he acts like Travis isn't talking to him at all as well. [/FONT][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][FONT=Tahoma]I would LOVE to say it is normal but after coming home after being away for a few days (I visited friends by myself! muuucchhh needed!!) and actively observing him and to know that he carries all the symptoms of it makes me want to CRY!!!!!!!![/FONT][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][FONT=Tahoma]I honestly do not know what to do. He is such a love when he wants to be but I am losing it half the time because the boy just won't listen. [/FONT][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][FONT=Tahoma]So, I would love to hear some advice. I am going to be contacting a specialist that my dr had recommended at his last appointment. I had asked if it was normal for his behavior for some of the things he was doing and that was back in January. The dr didn't seem concerned because TJ communicates well and didn't seem to be shy or have speech problems, etc. *I didn't pursue it because the dr was not at all concerned.[/FONT][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][FONT=Tahoma]Please let me know if you can help me in any way. I am willing to do whatever (I am not a fan of medication at the age of 3) but I do know there is some therapy offered and so on. [/FONT][/SIZE] [FONT=Tahoma][SIZE=3]Thank you for taking the time to read this. I truly appreciate it. You all seem like such a great group from some of the posts I had read. [/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Tahoma][SIZE=3]:) [/SIZE][/FONT] [SIZE=3][FONT=Tahoma]Allie [/FONT][/SIZE] [/QUOTE]
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