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<blockquote data-quote="SRL" data-source="post: 161412" data-attributes="member: 701"><p>Hi allie, welcome to our forum. </p><p> </p><p>If your son has grown up in a stable home environment, the fact that he just isn't "getting" the basics of discipline at age 3 is enough to warrant looking for answers. Certainly follow up with the specialist that your pediatrician is referring you. What kind of specialist is that? We do advise a thorough assessment when you reach this point--developmental pediatrician, Occupational therapy, and if indicated speech.</p><p> </p><p>Since preschool/daycare is likely to be a challenge I'd also advise you to call the local school district to request an evaluation on him. Follow that up with a written letter. Even children who are very bright can benefit from a specialized preschool setting which is in tune to their needs and tweaked to helping them learn the skills they will need. He may or may not qualify, but you'll get a free evaluation on him and will have established a relationship with the school district either way.</p><p> </p><p>I'd suggest starting to keep a journal on him--sleep patterns, behaviors, triggers, diet, cycles of behavioral patterns, etc. This may help you to see patterns that might not be obvious now. It may also help alert you to changes--ie my difficult child didn't have any speech delays at age 3 but they onset later (around 4.5) and helped alert us that we may need to look into Autistic Spectrum Disorders.</p><p> </p><p>While you are waiting for the assessments I would advise you to sit tight on the discipline--just keep him and sibs safe, up the level of babyproofing if needed instead of knocking yourself out to teach what he's not catching onto, install alarms on the doors so you'll know if he escapes, don't sweat the small stuff like his picking up toys and eating when the family eats, etc. </p><p> </p><p>Finally, most of us here feel that ODD doesn't stand alone but it more like a symptom to something else that's going on neurologically so you'll want to do some more digging. </p><p> </p><p>What's the family mental health history look like? Any anxiety, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), depression, bipolar, substance abuse, schizophrenia, etc?</p><p> </p><p>He communicates well but is his speech different in any ways ie is he latching onto words or phrases that are more typical of older kids? How about echoing back questions to you instead of answering?</p><p> </p><p>Is he lining up toys or other household items?</p><p> </p><p>What are his sleep patterns like?</p><p> </p><p>Does he seem overly sensitive to things like food textures, clothes, tags, socks, loud sounds, lights, etc?</p><p> </p><p>Hang in there-hopefully we'll be able to get you some help.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SRL, post: 161412, member: 701"] Hi allie, welcome to our forum. If your son has grown up in a stable home environment, the fact that he just isn't "getting" the basics of discipline at age 3 is enough to warrant looking for answers. Certainly follow up with the specialist that your pediatrician is referring you. What kind of specialist is that? We do advise a thorough assessment when you reach this point--developmental pediatrician, Occupational therapy, and if indicated speech. Since preschool/daycare is likely to be a challenge I'd also advise you to call the local school district to request an evaluation on him. Follow that up with a written letter. Even children who are very bright can benefit from a specialized preschool setting which is in tune to their needs and tweaked to helping them learn the skills they will need. He may or may not qualify, but you'll get a free evaluation on him and will have established a relationship with the school district either way. I'd suggest starting to keep a journal on him--sleep patterns, behaviors, triggers, diet, cycles of behavioral patterns, etc. This may help you to see patterns that might not be obvious now. It may also help alert you to changes--ie my difficult child didn't have any speech delays at age 3 but they onset later (around 4.5) and helped alert us that we may need to look into Autistic Spectrum Disorders. While you are waiting for the assessments I would advise you to sit tight on the discipline--just keep him and sibs safe, up the level of babyproofing if needed instead of knocking yourself out to teach what he's not catching onto, install alarms on the doors so you'll know if he escapes, don't sweat the small stuff like his picking up toys and eating when the family eats, etc. Finally, most of us here feel that ODD doesn't stand alone but it more like a symptom to something else that's going on neurologically so you'll want to do some more digging. What's the family mental health history look like? Any anxiety, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), depression, bipolar, substance abuse, schizophrenia, etc? He communicates well but is his speech different in any ways ie is he latching onto words or phrases that are more typical of older kids? How about echoing back questions to you instead of answering? Is he lining up toys or other household items? What are his sleep patterns like? Does he seem overly sensitive to things like food textures, clothes, tags, socks, loud sounds, lights, etc? Hang in there-hopefully we'll be able to get you some help. [/QUOTE]
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