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<blockquote data-quote="Joeman" data-source="post: 162570" data-attributes="member: 5231"><p>Hi Allie & welcome,</p><p>I tend to agree with the others that you are likely dealing with more than just a parenting issue. I know of many PCs that survive (and thrive) on less consistent and more hectic schedules. Your DS sounds very much like mine who is presently 3.5. I fought for and received a diagnosis of ADHD/ODD when he was just shy of turning 3. At 3.5 he was seen by the same dr. and we started a non-stimulant medication. It has made a moderate difference, especially in aggression and impulsivity. DS is in the inclusion preschool 5 days a week and receives Occupational Therapist (OT) and speech services. It has made a difference and DS does very well there. My advice would be in addition to seeking out school/early intervention services, to also pursue a diagnosis with your pediatrician. We are not heavy into behavioral mod here, just doing the following:</p><p>1. Lots of positive praise for good behavior</p><p>2. Timeouts for the real obnoxious stuff like hitting, biting following the book SOS for Parents.</p><p>3. Ignoring or letting slide the small stuff like name calling, playing with food, etc.</p><p>4. Lots of structure, including at least two periods a day of 30 minutes or more of outdoor active play</p><p>The rest of the time, we just try to be as consistent as possible as to what the 'rules' are and do not put DS in situations where he is going to fail (like trips to the grocery store). We give warnings of transitions and if he is touching/doing something we don't want him to do, he gets one warning then we just take away the item or remove him from the situation, no discussion. Our house is completely locked down at all times...maximum security babyproofing! DS sits in his booster seat with a secondary belt latched at the back for all meals and snacks. It is tough, tough, tough, but we are managing and overall things are better now than they were six months or a year ago.</p><p> </p><p>Good luck, I hope you hear back from PA soon and you are able to get some services/help for your DS.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Joeman, post: 162570, member: 5231"] Hi Allie & welcome, I tend to agree with the others that you are likely dealing with more than just a parenting issue. I know of many PCs that survive (and thrive) on less consistent and more hectic schedules. Your DS sounds very much like mine who is presently 3.5. I fought for and received a diagnosis of ADHD/ODD when he was just shy of turning 3. At 3.5 he was seen by the same dr. and we started a non-stimulant medication. It has made a moderate difference, especially in aggression and impulsivity. DS is in the inclusion preschool 5 days a week and receives Occupational Therapist (OT) and speech services. It has made a difference and DS does very well there. My advice would be in addition to seeking out school/early intervention services, to also pursue a diagnosis with your pediatrician. We are not heavy into behavioral mod here, just doing the following: 1. Lots of positive praise for good behavior 2. Timeouts for the real obnoxious stuff like hitting, biting following the book SOS for Parents. 3. Ignoring or letting slide the small stuff like name calling, playing with food, etc. 4. Lots of structure, including at least two periods a day of 30 minutes or more of outdoor active play The rest of the time, we just try to be as consistent as possible as to what the 'rules' are and do not put DS in situations where he is going to fail (like trips to the grocery store). We give warnings of transitions and if he is touching/doing something we don't want him to do, he gets one warning then we just take away the item or remove him from the situation, no discussion. Our house is completely locked down at all times...maximum security babyproofing! DS sits in his booster seat with a secondary belt latched at the back for all meals and snacks. It is tough, tough, tough, but we are managing and overall things are better now than they were six months or a year ago. Good luck, I hope you hear back from PA soon and you are able to get some services/help for your DS. [/QUOTE]
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