So my son has been difficult for at least the past year - he is 3, turning 4 October 10th. I have heard time and time again, that's a boy for ya. The true moments I began to worry began July 5th. We were coming back from a family trip and were about 8 hours from home. He started by taking his sister's blanket, then pinching her, then throwing things, telling me "You can't make me" etc. I will try to keep this short. Thinking we just didn't keep him occupied enough we armed ourselves well for the next few trips with dvd players and toys - better. Then the next blowup- July 30th - over getting dressed for pictures. Tried to let him pick out his clothes thinking that would make it better. No, much screaming, kicking, hitting, had to be restrained. In the end, he was in the pictures for my parents 45th anniversary - without a shirt. Fast forward to August 6th, my father and husband tried to get him to sit at the table at my parents for dinner. Disaster! Ended up with my dad restraining him. I asked what he was trying to accomplish - since I had read the Explosive Child after the previous blowup which occurred on August 4th when he didn't want to get out of the car and go to VBS. Set up an appointment with a child psychologist and an appointment with his daycare yesterday. Turns out they hadn't told me but they are experiencing the extreme defiance as well. So I sit here at home right now because he had a fit over getting his pull up changed and kicked his teacher in the face. Normal 3 yr old behavior? Help me. I am so tired of hearing that I need to beat him to show him who is boss. He has been spanked but I always feel terrible because why treat aggression with hitting? but it is the only thing that seemed to work. He has been restrained. He has recently turned to bolting when he doesn't want to do something. Running towards major streets even. What bothered the daycare director most about today, he sat in her office for over an hour and wouldn't say a word. When I finally got him to talk, all he would say is I'm tired. He is not tired. He got over 10 hours of sleep last night. That is the only thing he ever says in situations, "I'm tired." Help? Thoughts? The meeting with daycare is at 3:30 today and the psychologist appointment is this Thursday morning as I called and got into a cancellation spot because I got desparate when I heard he kicked the teacher in the face. Thank you!