Susie, as I have gone thru my own recent evaluation and researched more, I have learned that my tremors are neurological- even the psychiatric that did this evaluation included that fact in his report. And they are NOT caused by anxiety even though they can get worse with stress. I'm not bringing this up because I think this is J's answer- I don't know what is causing hers. But something does appear to be majorly wrong if she's trembling like this a neurologists are not considering anything other than anxiety. I think maybe there is some anxiety behind it- but there would be no way to determine that without also considering out other things. When this first was noticed as an issue with me in the military, 20+ years ago, I started seeing tdocs for anxiety and relaxation techniques, etc. I saw several and NONE of those methods helped me. Finally, the military put me thru a battery of medication tests to check thyroid, potential for diabetes, heart, etc. All that got ruled out. FINALLY I got the diagnosis of essential tremors. But the point I'm trying to make here is not so much that this is what J has- just that the doctors should be doing all these tests and ruling out these various things.
Iinterestly, they also gave the same battery of tests to a few other people there who had tremors and they did find that one person's was caused by a tumor in his thyroid. Not to scare you- that is very rare. But by doing these tests and removing his cancerous tumour, they saved his life. Anyone who has tremors should have a lot of various type testing and all things taken serious until everything is ruled out except essential/familial tremors. Especially when the person has them as serious as J does.