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<blockquote data-quote="Liahona" data-source="post: 450842"><p>Hi, I don't know much about Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) but I can tell you what we've done to keep everyone safe here. We've had an alarm on difficult child 1's door so he can't wander at night. We have a rule that he can't get out of his room in the morning until an adult comes for him. There have been times difficult child 1 has had to be a shadow (in my sight at all times), times he has to be in the same room, times I really need a break and send him to his room, times I'm in the next room but can hear everything going on, times he is in the basement and all the other kids are upstairs, times he is free to wander the house but all the other kids have to stay in the same room with me. I thought we were at a point where I didn't have to supervise as much (I thought the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) had helped enough) but I was wrong and we are back at extreme supervision levels now. The one time difficult child 1 sexually targeted me a consequence was set up that difficult child 1 couldn't be with me and had to be husband's shadow. He didn't ever repeat it again. Is there anyone that could do that for you? Male neighbor or friend or respite place. Here we have a place called Vantage point where its not an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) or phos but its a place parents (or police) can take unmanigable kids for a few hours. Its not a punishment place but it does send a strong message of 'you need to act acceptably at home.' </p><p></p><p>We also do side hugs. I ruffle hair, give hi fives and thumbs up. Tickleing is not allowed. We have physical affection with strict boundaries. </p><p></p><p>Did this sexual interest start suddenly? Was he abused or is this part of his diagnosis? Do you think its because you explained birds and bees and he just doesn't have the same social boundaries everyone else has? Maybe he is thinking that sex is for adults that love each other and he isn't seperating himself from the adults?</p><p></p><p>Good luck I hope school starting brings you some relief.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Liahona, post: 450842"] Hi, I don't know much about Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) but I can tell you what we've done to keep everyone safe here. We've had an alarm on difficult child 1's door so he can't wander at night. We have a rule that he can't get out of his room in the morning until an adult comes for him. There have been times difficult child 1 has had to be a shadow (in my sight at all times), times he has to be in the same room, times I really need a break and send him to his room, times I'm in the next room but can hear everything going on, times he is in the basement and all the other kids are upstairs, times he is free to wander the house but all the other kids have to stay in the same room with me. I thought we were at a point where I didn't have to supervise as much (I thought the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) had helped enough) but I was wrong and we are back at extreme supervision levels now. The one time difficult child 1 sexually targeted me a consequence was set up that difficult child 1 couldn't be with me and had to be husband's shadow. He didn't ever repeat it again. Is there anyone that could do that for you? Male neighbor or friend or respite place. Here we have a place called Vantage point where its not an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) or phos but its a place parents (or police) can take unmanigable kids for a few hours. Its not a punishment place but it does send a strong message of 'you need to act acceptably at home.' We also do side hugs. I ruffle hair, give hi fives and thumbs up. Tickleing is not allowed. We have physical affection with strict boundaries. Did this sexual interest start suddenly? Was he abused or is this part of his diagnosis? Do you think its because you explained birds and bees and he just doesn't have the same social boundaries everyone else has? Maybe he is thinking that sex is for adults that love each other and he isn't seperating himself from the adults? Good luck I hope school starting brings you some relief. [/QUOTE]
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