My 10 year old son has just recently been diagnosed with Aspergers and ODD. Have been trying to get him "help" for over 3 years now. FINALLY a diagnosis....I was relieved at first, but as of yesterday, things changed. I am having a problem with it. Feel so overwhelmed and sad at the same time that things will NEVER get "BETTER", that there is NO fix. EVERYTHING is an argument with him. Brushing teeth, cleaning up after himself, I say black and he says white. I say up and he says down. I am so exhausted every single day. Half the time I try and just keep quiet in hopes to not start an argument with him. I walk on eggshells daily.....
I am divorced and remarried and get a TON of **** from their dad, saying everything is all my fault, he doesn't act the way he acts for me when he is at his house. Have been thinking lately about throwing in the towel and letting him go and live with his dad, thinking things would be easier for him (my son) if he did. Maybe he would have a happier life ? My heart is just BREAKING even typing this, can't believe this thought is even crossing my mind. His dad has NEVER been involved, doesn't ever go to any of his appointments---he is also epileptic so sees a neuro, has severe allergies and asthma so sees a dr for that, gets allergy shots once a week. His dad has never been involved since day one. Has told me in the past that I am a hypochondriac and the dr's just go by what I tell them. Evidently, he thinks I just make things up that happen at our house.
Every morning is a nightmare for me. I never know what kind of mood he is going to wake up in OR if he is even going to get up out of bed. He usually literally gets up when it is time to walk out the door. Usually there is yelling, screaming and crying that he doesn't want to get up prior. I get to work and just cry sometimes....am exhausted once I get to work first thing in the morning.
My husband and I have been married almost 4 years. Before we got married, we both wanted to have a child together. We are a "blended family": He has a 7 year old boy, I have a 10 and 13 year old boy and we now have a baby girl together who is almost 5 months. We almost weren't going to have another child because of my son's "issues" and were hoping he would get better, but finally ended up doing so because I didn't want to think what might have been....we were blessed with such a beautiful baby girl, just like we were blessed with our 3 other children.
So needless to say, I have sleepless nights now and nightmare days most of the time. My husband is so wonderful and does all that he can.
I haven't read much of this site yet but definitely plan to in my spare time. Can anyone relate to this? I have felt all alone for years, been his advocate, recently changed therapists because all the one would do is write scripts....
Thank you for your time. GOD BLESS you all......
I am divorced and remarried and get a TON of **** from their dad, saying everything is all my fault, he doesn't act the way he acts for me when he is at his house. Have been thinking lately about throwing in the towel and letting him go and live with his dad, thinking things would be easier for him (my son) if he did. Maybe he would have a happier life ? My heart is just BREAKING even typing this, can't believe this thought is even crossing my mind. His dad has NEVER been involved, doesn't ever go to any of his appointments---he is also epileptic so sees a neuro, has severe allergies and asthma so sees a dr for that, gets allergy shots once a week. His dad has never been involved since day one. Has told me in the past that I am a hypochondriac and the dr's just go by what I tell them. Evidently, he thinks I just make things up that happen at our house.
Every morning is a nightmare for me. I never know what kind of mood he is going to wake up in OR if he is even going to get up out of bed. He usually literally gets up when it is time to walk out the door. Usually there is yelling, screaming and crying that he doesn't want to get up prior. I get to work and just cry sometimes....am exhausted once I get to work first thing in the morning.
My husband and I have been married almost 4 years. Before we got married, we both wanted to have a child together. We are a "blended family": He has a 7 year old boy, I have a 10 and 13 year old boy and we now have a baby girl together who is almost 5 months. We almost weren't going to have another child because of my son's "issues" and were hoping he would get better, but finally ended up doing so because I didn't want to think what might have been....we were blessed with such a beautiful baby girl, just like we were blessed with our 3 other children.
So needless to say, I have sleepless nights now and nightmare days most of the time. My husband is so wonderful and does all that he can.
I haven't read much of this site yet but definitely plan to in my spare time. Can anyone relate to this? I have felt all alone for years, been his advocate, recently changed therapists because all the one would do is write scripts....
Thank you for your time. GOD BLESS you all......
