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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 151144" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>difficult child 1 is aware of his obsessions and they're not always what he wants to do. For example, he will play computer games obsessively - he likes that. But he also will pace around the house checking doors & windows, and looking for his wallet & keys. He doesn't like that, he hates it and wants to stop. He does other things obsessively and can't stop them even though he doesn't want to do it. Similar with easy child 2/difficult child 2 - she is obsessive about how she completes certain tasks even though it causes problems with her work colleagues.</p><p></p><p>Some obsessions are more like stims; others are true Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), even within Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD).</p><p></p><p>And yes, the obsessions and stims do vary. difficult child 1 used to be obsessed with bubbles; water (especially water droplets falling); leaves on the trees; rocks and stones especially falling. He has modified this over the years. He still loves to play with my lava lamp but is less obsessed with bubbles. We no longer have to keep a bucket of bubble mix plus bubble wands at the ready. </p><p></p><p>difficult child 1 used to be hooked on dinosaurs. Then it was birds, especially eagles. Then he found religion and the church he goes to (unlike our family church) discourages any acceptance of evolutionary theory (which is causing some difficulty in a house full of scientists). As a result, difficult child 1 is often avoiding TV programs on wildlife because they do sometimes make reference to characteristics which "evolved 10 million years ago" or whatever. In other words, his current obsession is religion. Which is preferable to being obsessed with being an armed robber, but still a concern if it becomes too obsessive and less thought involved. In his new job, when everyone else is taking their morning tea break and grabbing some food, difficult child 1 is reading his Bible. I told him he needs to eat, he's already too skinny. "I need to read my Bible too, Mum," he told me. </p><p>"You can read your Bible AND eat at the same time you know," I said. "Nourish your body at the same time as your soul."</p><p></p><p>Hoarding things - we've been there too. difficult child 1 collected Star Trek figurines, and then later Star Wars figurines. Then it was Star Wars light sabers - the really expensive hundreds of dollars ones. He's also collected various bladed weapons, reproductions from history and fiction. He mounted some of these around the house so instead of a lovely print of a country scene, we may find a scimitar, or a samurai sword.</p><p></p><p>We try to keep collections of things together. Sticks & stones have to go outside. difficult child 1 used to collect sticks. He had one favourite stick, it was polished smooth from his hands. It was special to him - it was the flower stem of a Xanthorrhea, or Australian grass tree. He took it to school for show and tell and the teacher threw it away. Luckily I was able to go back and find it in the rubbish and bring it home to a hysterical son. I think it's still in his bedroom (I don't go in there any more).</p><p></p><p>How does he score on the Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) test? That can give you some pointers.</p><p></p><p>I hope you get some answers soon, to help you.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 151144, member: 1991"] difficult child 1 is aware of his obsessions and they're not always what he wants to do. For example, he will play computer games obsessively - he likes that. But he also will pace around the house checking doors & windows, and looking for his wallet & keys. He doesn't like that, he hates it and wants to stop. He does other things obsessively and can't stop them even though he doesn't want to do it. Similar with easy child 2/difficult child 2 - she is obsessive about how she completes certain tasks even though it causes problems with her work colleagues. Some obsessions are more like stims; others are true Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), even within Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD). And yes, the obsessions and stims do vary. difficult child 1 used to be obsessed with bubbles; water (especially water droplets falling); leaves on the trees; rocks and stones especially falling. He has modified this over the years. He still loves to play with my lava lamp but is less obsessed with bubbles. We no longer have to keep a bucket of bubble mix plus bubble wands at the ready. difficult child 1 used to be hooked on dinosaurs. Then it was birds, especially eagles. Then he found religion and the church he goes to (unlike our family church) discourages any acceptance of evolutionary theory (which is causing some difficulty in a house full of scientists). As a result, difficult child 1 is often avoiding TV programs on wildlife because they do sometimes make reference to characteristics which "evolved 10 million years ago" or whatever. In other words, his current obsession is religion. Which is preferable to being obsessed with being an armed robber, but still a concern if it becomes too obsessive and less thought involved. In his new job, when everyone else is taking their morning tea break and grabbing some food, difficult child 1 is reading his Bible. I told him he needs to eat, he's already too skinny. "I need to read my Bible too, Mum," he told me. "You can read your Bible AND eat at the same time you know," I said. "Nourish your body at the same time as your soul." Hoarding things - we've been there too. difficult child 1 collected Star Trek figurines, and then later Star Wars figurines. Then it was Star Wars light sabers - the really expensive hundreds of dollars ones. He's also collected various bladed weapons, reproductions from history and fiction. He mounted some of these around the house so instead of a lovely print of a country scene, we may find a scimitar, or a samurai sword. We try to keep collections of things together. Sticks & stones have to go outside. difficult child 1 used to collect sticks. He had one favourite stick, it was polished smooth from his hands. It was special to him - it was the flower stem of a Xanthorrhea, or Australian grass tree. He took it to school for show and tell and the teacher threw it away. Luckily I was able to go back and find it in the rubbish and bring it home to a hysterical son. I think it's still in his bedroom (I don't go in there any more). How does he score on the Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) test? That can give you some pointers. I hope you get some answers soon, to help you. Marg [/QUOTE]
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