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<blockquote data-quote="Allan-Matlem" data-source="post: 416212" data-attributes="member: 10"><p>Hi</p><p></p><p> ''But if you try to be "best friends" he will walk all over you. '' - The challenge is for the kid to see you as a help , somebody he trusts to help him meet his needs and that means working on the relationship , reaching out to the kid . That means plenty of conversations , getting him to speak and you listen. helping him to ' learn to trust you is a process , so you can work with the kid. The basic philosophy of the cps - explosive child is that children do well if they can . Kids would rather be successful and adaptive , have good relationships - when that is not happening it means the kid lacks coping skills and there are plenty of unsolved problems in his world that need to be worked on.</p><p></p><p>a pessimistic view of the nature of kids or explanations that there behavior is mainly driven by trying to get what they want, attention seeking and avoiding tasks. We all try to get what we want but in adaptive ways.</p><p></p><p>Instead of the word ' friend ' we can use ' guide by the side or older sister , my point being put the relationship first . It is one of the questions i ask fellow parents - what kind of relationship do you have with your kids </p><p></p><p>It is not easy</p><p></p><p>allan</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Allan-Matlem, post: 416212, member: 10"] Hi ''But if you try to be "best friends" he will walk all over you. '' - The challenge is for the kid to see you as a help , somebody he trusts to help him meet his needs and that means working on the relationship , reaching out to the kid . That means plenty of conversations , getting him to speak and you listen. helping him to ' learn to trust you is a process , so you can work with the kid. The basic philosophy of the cps - explosive child is that children do well if they can . Kids would rather be successful and adaptive , have good relationships - when that is not happening it means the kid lacks coping skills and there are plenty of unsolved problems in his world that need to be worked on. a pessimistic view of the nature of kids or explanations that there behavior is mainly driven by trying to get what they want, attention seeking and avoiding tasks. We all try to get what we want but in adaptive ways. Instead of the word ' friend ' we can use ' guide by the side or older sister , my point being put the relationship first . It is one of the questions i ask fellow parents - what kind of relationship do you have with your kids It is not easy allan [/QUOTE]
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