hello everyone, i came across this site in my desperate search for info and help in the itnernet. i have no idea what "difficult child" is as i see all over here. my son is NOT diagnosed with a conduct disorder, however his problems are conduct related and i always have trouble finding sites and forums where we "fit in". in brief, he is 9, formally diagnosed with ADHD, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Tourette's, and Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) not otherwise specified. he is very smart, bright, kind, sweet, nice, warm, sensitive, emotional, delayed maturity, quirky, had tics but hasnt had them for 11 months, angry, temper, frustrated. He has been diagnosed since age 2! he always was different, had problems with aggression since age 1! he is normal IQ, does his 3rd grade school work, but we have had to change schools every year or even every few months since he was 3! we live in FL. he has attended public schools only because our city has no good private schools. anyhow, i know my son has problems that he cannot control. i know the aggression problems he has are like little explosions that he cant seem to control because he is VERY smart and has no comprehension problems and understands and can even talk to you about feelings, self control, good choices, etc etc etc on and on. I myself am even sick of talking about that stuff. it does NOT make any difference. now i know my son is very emotionally immature and has many problems with emotions, mood, processing his feelings and having typical thought patterns and responses. so i guess thats why he doesnt translate knowing that hitting other kids is bad with changing his behavior. i fear i am jumping aorund too much because i am so upset trying to understand and figure this out. at home and in general life my son is not easy or easy to handle, he is defiant, oppositional, but not to extremes and he is no longer aggressive at home or in the community, ONLY at school, and only on some occassions when a peer has rejected him or someone wont play with him or a teacher is scoling him, he responds with hitting, kicking, even biting! he has had to be restrained as recent as a few months ago and he is 9! this is a very intelligent child! he does not steal, lie, stuff like that, but somethingin his brain doesnt know how to not lash out violenty when upset. i dont know if its specifically the peers not accepting him that makes hmi aggressive, i dont know if he has some psychiatric disorder not yet diagnosed, i dont know if its some food he is eating, i dont know WHY and i dont know other parents of kids who are like this: high functioning, rational, normal IQ, not typical but not severe, yet who can also be aggressive at the drop of a pin! i have spent a life savings on the most expensive psychologists, neurologists, and no one can tell me anything exceopt he is very complex, hard case. i know that! so, i dont know if my case fits in here and if anyone here has anything to say in comment, but anything is appreciated, i dont know how to school him, to look for a private school in another state, to give up and keep him home, to try medication which i am not persnally a fan of (i am not a judgmental person and would never judge others for what they do to help their child!) etc. Thank you for reading!