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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 298071" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>It may be time to draw the line in the sand with your husband. It came to that for my husband to get out of the way of our difficult child's care. I finally told my husband that if he refused to give my son medications then we would be out the door so fast his head would spin. I did not do it lightly and I totally meant it. I saw it as if our child had a missing arm. We would not deny him a prosthetic arm would we? Put like that he gave in. Once he saw some progress he became a staunch supporter.</p><p></p><p>One of the things you can use in your discussion with your husband is that very often drug and alcohol abusers are self medicating for mental health problems.</p><p></p><p>Your son is no dummy. He KNOWS he is different. he probably wants to do what you want him to. Most kids really do want to please parents. For a difficult child is just isn't physically possible. Their brains and bodies just cannot do it without help.</p><p></p><p>My son took risperdal for many years. It was really great. For the entire family. it didn't fix things but it let him feel and act more normally. It also made life much safer for our other kids.</p><p></p><p>This isn't just about your difficult child. It is also about the rest of the family. Your other child deserves parents who are not spending all their time trying to force his sibling to behave. So often our other kids aer the ones who really suffer.</p><p></p><p>If need be draw that line in the sand. Do whatever you can to make sure your kids have every chance at success. Take this medication as a way to keep your child off drugs and alcohol. it isn't perfect, but studies are out there who show that kids like our difficult children who are medicated from early on are much much less likely to become addicts.</p><p></p><p>For my husband, having been through the mill with various alcoholic friends and my alcoholic brother, that is the argument that helped him get out of the way of our difficult child's health and well being.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 298071, member: 1233"] It may be time to draw the line in the sand with your husband. It came to that for my husband to get out of the way of our difficult child's care. I finally told my husband that if he refused to give my son medications then we would be out the door so fast his head would spin. I did not do it lightly and I totally meant it. I saw it as if our child had a missing arm. We would not deny him a prosthetic arm would we? Put like that he gave in. Once he saw some progress he became a staunch supporter. One of the things you can use in your discussion with your husband is that very often drug and alcohol abusers are self medicating for mental health problems. Your son is no dummy. He KNOWS he is different. he probably wants to do what you want him to. Most kids really do want to please parents. For a difficult child is just isn't physically possible. Their brains and bodies just cannot do it without help. My son took risperdal for many years. It was really great. For the entire family. it didn't fix things but it let him feel and act more normally. It also made life much safer for our other kids. This isn't just about your difficult child. It is also about the rest of the family. Your other child deserves parents who are not spending all their time trying to force his sibling to behave. So often our other kids aer the ones who really suffer. If need be draw that line in the sand. Do whatever you can to make sure your kids have every chance at success. Take this medication as a way to keep your child off drugs and alcohol. it isn't perfect, but studies are out there who show that kids like our difficult children who are medicated from early on are much much less likely to become addicts. For my husband, having been through the mill with various alcoholic friends and my alcoholic brother, that is the argument that helped him get out of the way of our difficult child's health and well being. [/QUOTE]
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