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<blockquote data-quote="welcometowitsend" data-source="post: 522452" data-attributes="member: 14356"><p>Wipedout and lonelyroad - thank you so much for your kind welcome and support. It means a lot. </p><p></p><p>Buddy and MidwestMom- Yes, it is true that they can make all their own medical decisions once they hit 12. It is completely ridiculous. I have a friend at church whose son started refusing schizophrenia medications and there was nothing they could do. Ugh! </p><p></p><p>And he is legally allowed to move out and live on his own at 16. I can kick him out via Children's Aid before he is 18, but if he chooses to leave I am not financially responsible for him. Because we are Canadian he will have coverage to go to the doctor but not dental or prescriptions. </p><p></p><p>I don't think I have to let him come back home and I certainly won't unless he is willing to agree to the rules and to accept consequences for breaking them. That and of course there will be no violence or verbal abuse towards us. If he asks to come back home I want to have a meeting with him, husband, myself and maybe the girlfriends parents in a public place - I think it's less likely he'll act out there and in front of them. Funny, they think he is a great kid - and I know he can be. Part of the deal will be therapy and random drug testing - it has to be. </p><p></p><p>We will have to discuss how it is going to be and he must agree to it before he can come home. And husband doesn't want him in the house alone with daughter or myself - not sure how that will work out. He definitely won't be allowed in the house with daughter alone - that is for sure. She is so much smaller than him and unable to defend herself. </p><p></p><p>Oh, to answer some of the questions - he has never been on medications or had a therapist for the Tourette's or ADHD - they were both pretty mild and the Tourette's is in remission right now and has been for a few years - I worried it would get worse when puberty hit but it got a lot better. When he was very young he had some issues with transitioning so we worked through them with deep breathing exercises as well as giving him advance notice that a transition was going to happen. For example - DS, we will be going home in 30 minutes, if there is a game you want to play with your friend you should do it now before it is time to leave. DS, we will be leaving in 15 minutes.... DS, 5 more minutes buddy! That solved the problem and eventually we didn't have to do it anymore. </p><p></p><p>Thankfully the police had Victims Services call us and see how we are doing. They gave me their number if I have any more questions or need someone to talk to and the number for a very good local support group for parents. I'm going to call on Monday and find out when they meet next - it will be helpful to have a local support group so I can get a feel for what is going on in this area. I know there is a tent city nearby - just don't know where and if he gets kicked out of girlfriends he might end up there. </p><p></p><p>Thank you again!! </p><p></p><p>Oh, and thank you for the book recommendation!! I will definitely be buying that book this weekend.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="welcometowitsend, post: 522452, member: 14356"] Wipedout and lonelyroad - thank you so much for your kind welcome and support. It means a lot. Buddy and MidwestMom- Yes, it is true that they can make all their own medical decisions once they hit 12. It is completely ridiculous. I have a friend at church whose son started refusing schizophrenia medications and there was nothing they could do. Ugh! And he is legally allowed to move out and live on his own at 16. I can kick him out via Children's Aid before he is 18, but if he chooses to leave I am not financially responsible for him. Because we are Canadian he will have coverage to go to the doctor but not dental or prescriptions. I don't think I have to let him come back home and I certainly won't unless he is willing to agree to the rules and to accept consequences for breaking them. That and of course there will be no violence or verbal abuse towards us. If he asks to come back home I want to have a meeting with him, husband, myself and maybe the girlfriends parents in a public place - I think it's less likely he'll act out there and in front of them. Funny, they think he is a great kid - and I know he can be. Part of the deal will be therapy and random drug testing - it has to be. We will have to discuss how it is going to be and he must agree to it before he can come home. And husband doesn't want him in the house alone with daughter or myself - not sure how that will work out. He definitely won't be allowed in the house with daughter alone - that is for sure. She is so much smaller than him and unable to defend herself. Oh, to answer some of the questions - he has never been on medications or had a therapist for the Tourette's or ADHD - they were both pretty mild and the Tourette's is in remission right now and has been for a few years - I worried it would get worse when puberty hit but it got a lot better. When he was very young he had some issues with transitioning so we worked through them with deep breathing exercises as well as giving him advance notice that a transition was going to happen. For example - DS, we will be going home in 30 minutes, if there is a game you want to play with your friend you should do it now before it is time to leave. DS, we will be leaving in 15 minutes.... DS, 5 more minutes buddy! That solved the problem and eventually we didn't have to do it anymore. Thankfully the police had Victims Services call us and see how we are doing. They gave me their number if I have any more questions or need someone to talk to and the number for a very good local support group for parents. I'm going to call on Monday and find out when they meet next - it will be helpful to have a local support group so I can get a feel for what is going on in this area. I know there is a tent city nearby - just don't know where and if he gets kicked out of girlfriends he might end up there. Thank you again!! Oh, and thank you for the book recommendation!! I will definitely be buying that book this weekend. [/QUOTE]
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