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<blockquote data-quote="loosinghope2008" data-source="post: 142791" data-attributes="member: 4997"><p>Please excuse the multiple posts. It just dawned on me I could use the multiple quote option. </p><p> </p><p>First, and I should have done it in my first response post, thank you all for your kind and insightful responses. I really appreciate all the great advice and warm welcomes. </p><p> </p><p>I am at that point of feeling very hopeless. Even in reading the definition provided by Star, that seems to be where I am. We've been dealing with these issues for so many years, I'm just tired and feel like regardless of how much help I provide my child, she's never gonna get better.</p><p> </p><p>Since we've been in therapy for so many years, I have learned that I need to take some time for me so I don't get crazy. I have some great friends and make it a point to get out of the house at least once a week. They're always there when I need a friend to talk to or shoulder to cry on. My best friend even has a daughter dealing with similiar issues. I also have my own interests. I'm on the counsel for my towns local government and I am the president of a watershed organization I founded. </p><p> </p><p>In reading the views on discipline Marguerite provided, I have to say that seems easy in principle but so hard with our chaotic life. My husband works long hours and is dealing with major back issues, so often he is in pain and short on patience. Usually the bulk of the parenting and discipline falls on me. I have four children, one 19 - who's had his share of teenage issues; my daughter who's 15; and the boys I adopted (one who is 8 with cerebral palsy and one who is 6 with developmental delays). I refer to our house as the "House of Chaos". Every day is totally scheduled up and we have little down time. If there were a way to decrease whats on the schedule I'd do it, but unfortunately there isn't. </p><p> </p><p>We have a big issue this weekend. I must go away for a conference, which my town has already paid for and my hubby is not well equipped to handle my daughter and the boys on his own. I had thought of sending my daughter to my parents house, especially since they don't have internet access, but not sure if its fair to them to have to deal with her, especially at their age. I ask her case manager at her therapy clinic, if they had a respite place to put her, and there are no beds available. I have no clue what I'm going to do. </p><p> </p><p>When we meet with her psychiatrist on Monday we're going to be discussing long-term placement. I think that's what got me feeling more depressed then anything. My daughter has even said she feels I'm giving up on her. I'm not, I just don't know what else to do. I don't feel I'm equipped to handle her needs and feel as if I'm failing miserably. </p><p> </p><p>And if you want icing on the cake. I have already planned this big family vacation to Disney World in May. I was so lookin' forward to having some fun family down time. I even shared with my daughter my hope of riding some rides with her one on one and getting to just laugh and have fun with her. Now I'm feeling like that dream isn't going to happen, and even if we do get to go, I fear she'll some how ruin it. </p><p> </p><p>Anyway, I realize I'm rambling on and on. My daughters therapist felt it was imperative that I reach out for some support from like-minded parents. There is no local support group in my area, so I'm thankful that I found this place. </p><p> </p><p>Again, thank you all for your encouraging words. If I didn't respond to you directly, please trust that I valued and appreciate all your words and have already read them a couple times over.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="loosinghope2008, post: 142791, member: 4997"] Please excuse the multiple posts. It just dawned on me I could use the multiple quote option. First, and I should have done it in my first response post, thank you all for your kind and insightful responses. I really appreciate all the great advice and warm welcomes. I am at that point of feeling very hopeless. Even in reading the definition provided by Star, that seems to be where I am. We've been dealing with these issues for so many years, I'm just tired and feel like regardless of how much help I provide my child, she's never gonna get better. Since we've been in therapy for so many years, I have learned that I need to take some time for me so I don't get crazy. I have some great friends and make it a point to get out of the house at least once a week. They're always there when I need a friend to talk to or shoulder to cry on. My best friend even has a daughter dealing with similiar issues. I also have my own interests. I'm on the counsel for my towns local government and I am the president of a watershed organization I founded. In reading the views on discipline Marguerite provided, I have to say that seems easy in principle but so hard with our chaotic life. My husband works long hours and is dealing with major back issues, so often he is in pain and short on patience. Usually the bulk of the parenting and discipline falls on me. I have four children, one 19 - who's had his share of teenage issues; my daughter who's 15; and the boys I adopted (one who is 8 with cerebral palsy and one who is 6 with developmental delays). I refer to our house as the "House of Chaos". Every day is totally scheduled up and we have little down time. If there were a way to decrease whats on the schedule I'd do it, but unfortunately there isn't. We have a big issue this weekend. I must go away for a conference, which my town has already paid for and my hubby is not well equipped to handle my daughter and the boys on his own. I had thought of sending my daughter to my parents house, especially since they don't have internet access, but not sure if its fair to them to have to deal with her, especially at their age. I ask her case manager at her therapy clinic, if they had a respite place to put her, and there are no beds available. I have no clue what I'm going to do. When we meet with her psychiatrist on Monday we're going to be discussing long-term placement. I think that's what got me feeling more depressed then anything. My daughter has even said she feels I'm giving up on her. I'm not, I just don't know what else to do. I don't feel I'm equipped to handle her needs and feel as if I'm failing miserably. And if you want icing on the cake. I have already planned this big family vacation to Disney World in May. I was so lookin' forward to having some fun family down time. I even shared with my daughter my hope of riding some rides with her one on one and getting to just laugh and have fun with her. Now I'm feeling like that dream isn't going to happen, and even if we do get to go, I fear she'll some how ruin it. Anyway, I realize I'm rambling on and on. My daughters therapist felt it was imperative that I reach out for some support from like-minded parents. There is no local support group in my area, so I'm thankful that I found this place. Again, thank you all for your encouraging words. If I didn't respond to you directly, please trust that I valued and appreciate all your words and have already read them a couple times over. [/QUOTE]
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