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<blockquote data-quote="dadside" data-source="post: 225143" data-attributes="member: 5707"><p>I understand the problem of "a 15 year old former honor student who has moprhed into an oppositional, drug using, school avoiding, failing, physically and verbally violent rule breaker" because we've dealt with similar issues, minus the physical violence. That he is "classified" by the school gives you a much better position than most, since at least they formally recognized he needs some special help. </p><p> </p><p>My daughter did get effective help from a residential therapeutic school from which she couldn't run -- and it was largely (at the end, fully) paid for by our local school. One key was having the help of an education attorney (not free!) to get the local school to do what they did. A trained education advocate could at least get you closer to the goal, if not all the way, saving an attorney unless/until necessary.</p><p> </p><p>In our case, a lot went on with our duaghter we didn't realize for some time. Changing friends, changing interests, and other "signs" weren't obvious to us, but falling grades were a basis for getting her classified. Drugs were an issue, and complication in getting her placement paid, but didn't surface with the school until very late in the process, and the school had already agreed a residential placement was in order. Just avoid the drug issue, or consider it a side-effect if school personnel raise it.</p><p> </p><p>As his issues have been building for a while, and he doesn't want to do what is really needed to restore a bright future, day programs and short-term rehabs don't seem worth the effort to pursue. I believe most residential schools/programs that would be effective are in remote places, discouraging "walking away", but have no legal way to lock him in. Some programs can keep the students there, so you do have to ask.</p><p> </p><p>Since you've tried local day programs and the school's offerings, and nothing is working, I suggest you pursue the education advocate/attorney route to get the proper placement paid. You'll almost surely have to find the right place yourself, with some good guidance from outside, and probably look out of your state as well. And you'll just have to push the school by using the regulations they must follow. (That is where someone on your side who knows the regs comes in.)</p><p> </p><p>There are some limited "scholarships" available, but very few. An effective placement will likely mean at least 9 months in the school/program, and often longer (12 - 15 is common), so it is "real money". It was effective for our daughter, as for many other teens. I hope you can get help to get your school to do what they should.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dadside, post: 225143, member: 5707"] I understand the problem of "a 15 year old former honor student who has moprhed into an oppositional, drug using, school avoiding, failing, physically and verbally violent rule breaker" because we've dealt with similar issues, minus the physical violence. That he is "classified" by the school gives you a much better position than most, since at least they formally recognized he needs some special help. My daughter did get effective help from a residential therapeutic school from which she couldn't run -- and it was largely (at the end, fully) paid for by our local school. One key was having the help of an education attorney (not free!) to get the local school to do what they did. A trained education advocate could at least get you closer to the goal, if not all the way, saving an attorney unless/until necessary. In our case, a lot went on with our duaghter we didn't realize for some time. Changing friends, changing interests, and other "signs" weren't obvious to us, but falling grades were a basis for getting her classified. Drugs were an issue, and complication in getting her placement paid, but didn't surface with the school until very late in the process, and the school had already agreed a residential placement was in order. Just avoid the drug issue, or consider it a side-effect if school personnel raise it. As his issues have been building for a while, and he doesn't want to do what is really needed to restore a bright future, day programs and short-term rehabs don't seem worth the effort to pursue. I believe most residential schools/programs that would be effective are in remote places, discouraging "walking away", but have no legal way to lock him in. Some programs can keep the students there, so you do have to ask. Since you've tried local day programs and the school's offerings, and nothing is working, I suggest you pursue the education advocate/attorney route to get the proper placement paid. You'll almost surely have to find the right place yourself, with some good guidance from outside, and probably look out of your state as well. And you'll just have to push the school by using the regulations they must follow. (That is where someone on your side who knows the regs comes in.) There are some limited "scholarships" available, but very few. An effective placement will likely mean at least 9 months in the school/program, and often longer (12 - 15 is common), so it is "real money". It was effective for our daughter, as for many other teens. I hope you can get help to get your school to do what they should. [/QUOTE]
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