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<blockquote data-quote="2daughters" data-source="post: 260998" data-attributes="member: 7134"><p>Thanks for the link SLR. I plan on going over it again and taking some notes on it.</p><p></p><p>The courts are sick. The lawyer he's got is, well he's got a vendetta against me (he was my Mom's divorce lawyer), and it seems he's made it his goal to fight me as hard as he can in court ... because it appears that every time I represent myself in court against him I come out the "winner" and make him look like a complete fool. I can't really see being forced to move closer to him, but I'm not taking any chances. I've already got her enrolled in school ... the courts don't like moving a child once they're enrolled in school, as well as having as many health professionals involved in her life that are needed (whom are also willing to write letters for me).</p><p></p><p>As far as my daughter's concerned, I've shown her bio. father's picture to the neighbors and have told them that IF he comes around to immediately call the police, and to warn me to stay hidden. I've got escape plans ready and in place as well as places to go (and where my daughter can go if I need to see him). I'm constantly telling my daughter how much I love her, even though some days she seems determined to drive me up the wall.</p><p></p><p>My husband came up with a plan that he's hoping might help. I don't know, but I would definitely appreciate your opinions on it. She's had her eye on one of those play kitchens ($500 one). He told her tonight that this weekend he's going to get it for her but that there's a condition. She has to be good for one entire month before she can open the box. I think what he's hoping is that it'll give her incentive to behave (mainly at bedtime) and that it will become a routine for her. I can see it working for a little while, but not for a month though.</p><p></p><p>Anyway, today was a really good day with her, except for bedtime. I decided to choose my battles wisely, and did what I could to use positive reinforcement. Bedtime was a different story. Anyone looking in would have wondered how such a small child could hold up (in a line at that) husband, myself and the dog. I've got to give husband a lot of credit. He was willing to stand there and wait patiently for her to go to her room, whereas I snuck past him and put her into bed (nature was calling for me so I couldn't wait much longer).</p><p></p><p>I have found so much wonderful advice and suggestions on this site. I find that I'm always taking notes on different things to try with my daughter, or different doctors to try to get my daughter an appointment with (to diagnose something other than just ODD, if there's anything else there). If you don't mind, I'd like my husband to browse through the site as well so he can see some of the things I've tried to explain to him, and maybe find something that works for him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="2daughters, post: 260998, member: 7134"] Thanks for the link SLR. I plan on going over it again and taking some notes on it. The courts are sick. The lawyer he's got is, well he's got a vendetta against me (he was my Mom's divorce lawyer), and it seems he's made it his goal to fight me as hard as he can in court ... because it appears that every time I represent myself in court against him I come out the "winner" and make him look like a complete fool. I can't really see being forced to move closer to him, but I'm not taking any chances. I've already got her enrolled in school ... the courts don't like moving a child once they're enrolled in school, as well as having as many health professionals involved in her life that are needed (whom are also willing to write letters for me). As far as my daughter's concerned, I've shown her bio. father's picture to the neighbors and have told them that IF he comes around to immediately call the police, and to warn me to stay hidden. I've got escape plans ready and in place as well as places to go (and where my daughter can go if I need to see him). I'm constantly telling my daughter how much I love her, even though some days she seems determined to drive me up the wall. My husband came up with a plan that he's hoping might help. I don't know, but I would definitely appreciate your opinions on it. She's had her eye on one of those play kitchens ($500 one). He told her tonight that this weekend he's going to get it for her but that there's a condition. She has to be good for one entire month before she can open the box. I think what he's hoping is that it'll give her incentive to behave (mainly at bedtime) and that it will become a routine for her. I can see it working for a little while, but not for a month though. Anyway, today was a really good day with her, except for bedtime. I decided to choose my battles wisely, and did what I could to use positive reinforcement. Bedtime was a different story. Anyone looking in would have wondered how such a small child could hold up (in a line at that) husband, myself and the dog. I've got to give husband a lot of credit. He was willing to stand there and wait patiently for her to go to her room, whereas I snuck past him and put her into bed (nature was calling for me so I couldn't wait much longer). I have found so much wonderful advice and suggestions on this site. I find that I'm always taking notes on different things to try with my daughter, or different doctors to try to get my daughter an appointment with (to diagnose something other than just ODD, if there's anything else there). If you don't mind, I'd like my husband to browse through the site as well so he can see some of the things I've tried to explain to him, and maybe find something that works for him. [/QUOTE]
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