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<blockquote data-quote="katya02" data-source="post: 206999" data-attributes="member: 2884"><p>Hi Missy,</p><p>{{{hugs}}} This is so hard. You know you've done the right thing but it's hard. Of course you love him and want him to succeed. You've given him the best chance of doing that by not tolerating drug use in your home. One good thing is that you know he's got a roof over his head and plans to share an apartment; you know he's working, so he has income. That makes it less likely that he'll need shelter in the middle of the night. To prepare for that situation you can make a list of shelters and assisted housing in your town or city, and offices that provide social services, and give it to him if need be. It will help your peace of mind to know what services are available to help him and it will be information for him. </p><p></p><p>At my son's rehab family group last week we watched a video of a family where the parents had to tell both their sons to leave due to drug use. The video was made four years later. Both sons had gotten clean and were working in their father's company. The older son said, in his interview, that at first he was very angry at his parents for making him leave, but that now he knows it's the best thing they could have done. That way he had to decide what sort of life he wanted. If he had stayed home, he said, he would not have made those decisions. I found the video very comforting. </p><p></p><p>You are doing wonderfully. I hope you can find an Al-Anon or Nar-Anon support group near you; it would be a great help. And keep posting; we're here for you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="katya02, post: 206999, member: 2884"] Hi Missy, {{{hugs}}} This is so hard. You know you've done the right thing but it's hard. Of course you love him and want him to succeed. You've given him the best chance of doing that by not tolerating drug use in your home. One good thing is that you know he's got a roof over his head and plans to share an apartment; you know he's working, so he has income. That makes it less likely that he'll need shelter in the middle of the night. To prepare for that situation you can make a list of shelters and assisted housing in your town or city, and offices that provide social services, and give it to him if need be. It will help your peace of mind to know what services are available to help him and it will be information for him. At my son's rehab family group last week we watched a video of a family where the parents had to tell both their sons to leave due to drug use. The video was made four years later. Both sons had gotten clean and were working in their father's company. The older son said, in his interview, that at first he was very angry at his parents for making him leave, but that now he knows it's the best thing they could have done. That way he had to decide what sort of life he wanted. If he had stayed home, he said, he would not have made those decisions. I found the video very comforting. You are doing wonderfully. I hope you can find an Al-Anon or Nar-Anon support group near you; it would be a great help. And keep posting; we're here for you. [/QUOTE]
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