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<blockquote data-quote="TeDo" data-source="post: 460763"><p>Get the book The Explosive Child by Ross Greene ASAP. Also, I wouldn't be so ready to put the ODD label on them. There are so many diagnoses that mimic ODD in a lot of ways. Try looking at the behaviors in a different way. Instead of assuming why they are doing it (I know, it's human nature) try to find out from them WHY. They may not be able to tell you but if you keep a calm, patient manner and voice, you might be amazed at what you learn. My son carried the ODD diagnosis for 4 years and was disciplined A LOT (including the occasional spanking from me) as is common practice for ODD ("they need to learn who's boss!"). We just found out a few months ago that it wasn't ODD at all. He was on the autism spectrum. All the punishment, especially at public school, and very high expectations to conform ended up causing extreme anxiety and eventually severe depression. If I had not just readily accepted the ODD diagnosis and dug deeper to find the CAUSE, he wouldn't be such an emotional mess right now.</p><p></p><p>The other thing I would do is have them evaluated by a neuropsychiatrist/neuropsychologist or at least a child psychiatrist. I have to agree that "something" is going on and you are not going to figure it out on your own. You might also want to look into counseling for yourself. Having difficult child's can be extremely emotionally draining, to say the least and it helps to have an experienced 3rd party help process things more objectively. It's very hard not to take our kids' behavior personally.</p><p></p><p>Others will be along with questions to help figure out what might be going on and where to steer you for help. You have definitely come to the right place. The experience and support from the parents hear has kept me sane for a year now. Welcome to our little corner of the world but I am so sorry you are in a place where you needed to find us.</p><p></p><p>{{{{(((HUGS)))}}}}</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TeDo, post: 460763"] Get the book The Explosive Child by Ross Greene ASAP. Also, I wouldn't be so ready to put the ODD label on them. There are so many diagnoses that mimic ODD in a lot of ways. Try looking at the behaviors in a different way. Instead of assuming why they are doing it (I know, it's human nature) try to find out from them WHY. They may not be able to tell you but if you keep a calm, patient manner and voice, you might be amazed at what you learn. My son carried the ODD diagnosis for 4 years and was disciplined A LOT (including the occasional spanking from me) as is common practice for ODD ("they need to learn who's boss!"). We just found out a few months ago that it wasn't ODD at all. He was on the autism spectrum. All the punishment, especially at public school, and very high expectations to conform ended up causing extreme anxiety and eventually severe depression. If I had not just readily accepted the ODD diagnosis and dug deeper to find the CAUSE, he wouldn't be such an emotional mess right now. The other thing I would do is have them evaluated by a neuropsychiatrist/neuropsychologist or at least a child psychiatrist. I have to agree that "something" is going on and you are not going to figure it out on your own. You might also want to look into counseling for yourself. Having difficult child's can be extremely emotionally draining, to say the least and it helps to have an experienced 3rd party help process things more objectively. It's very hard not to take our kids' behavior personally. Others will be along with questions to help figure out what might be going on and where to steer you for help. You have definitely come to the right place. The experience and support from the parents hear has kept me sane for a year now. Welcome to our little corner of the world but I am so sorry you are in a place where you needed to find us. {{{{(((HUGS)))}}}} [/QUOTE]
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