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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 166996" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I'm glad you feel better, Jody. A lot of what you described sounds like it could be more than just ADHD. Getting a different diagnosis shouldn't make any difference to how he can function, because he is who he is. But it can give you better insight and perhaps a better sense of direction, in knowing what sort of help can give him what he needs.</p><p></p><p>Something stuck out for me when I read the posts this time around - he sounds very bright. And he sounds like you can't keep him sufficiently stimulated. His apparent bullying could also be frustration with others for not instantly understanding what is so obvious to him. Our kids can sometimes be very intolerant of those who do not seem as bright.</p><p></p><p>If you can keep him stimulated and occupied in things that interest him, he might be less in your hair. Is there something he really enjoys doing? A topic he's interested in to exclusion of all else? If so, can you find him an adult mentor in this topic, who can give him some one-to-one time? I suggest an adult, because he may relate better. It could also help your son's self-esteem, to not only find someone he can talk to about his favourite topic, but to also feel validated in it, finally knowing there is something he is good at.</p><p></p><p>It can make a vast difference in how he feels, and this flows on to how you both get on.</p><p></p><p>It's something to do in the meantime, anyway. </p><p></p><p>But if you do find someone, let them know that he has problems which are still being evaluated, and for them to not take personally any apparent smart-mouthing or raging in frustration. Handing that with calm patience until he's able to get himself back under control is sometimes a much better tactic than punishing. I've learnt to never take that sort of behaviour personally.</p><p></p><p>Welcome to the team!</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 166996, member: 1991"] I'm glad you feel better, Jody. A lot of what you described sounds like it could be more than just ADHD. Getting a different diagnosis shouldn't make any difference to how he can function, because he is who he is. But it can give you better insight and perhaps a better sense of direction, in knowing what sort of help can give him what he needs. Something stuck out for me when I read the posts this time around - he sounds very bright. And he sounds like you can't keep him sufficiently stimulated. His apparent bullying could also be frustration with others for not instantly understanding what is so obvious to him. Our kids can sometimes be very intolerant of those who do not seem as bright. If you can keep him stimulated and occupied in things that interest him, he might be less in your hair. Is there something he really enjoys doing? A topic he's interested in to exclusion of all else? If so, can you find him an adult mentor in this topic, who can give him some one-to-one time? I suggest an adult, because he may relate better. It could also help your son's self-esteem, to not only find someone he can talk to about his favourite topic, but to also feel validated in it, finally knowing there is something he is good at. It can make a vast difference in how he feels, and this flows on to how you both get on. It's something to do in the meantime, anyway. But if you do find someone, let them know that he has problems which are still being evaluated, and for them to not take personally any apparent smart-mouthing or raging in frustration. Handing that with calm patience until he's able to get himself back under control is sometimes a much better tactic than punishing. I've learnt to never take that sort of behaviour personally. Welcome to the team! Marg [/QUOTE]
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