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<blockquote data-quote="Charmedpea" data-source="post: 168196" data-attributes="member: 5404"><p>Hi and Welcome. I'm new here also. My 13yr difficult child daughter is also newly diagonsis with adhd and odd. </p><p> </p><p>for the last 2 years have been h*ll. she has been in a detention center for 3 days. Getting suspended from school detention for the last 2 years in school. </p><p> </p><p>Fast forward:</p><p>3 weeks ago she overdosed. That was the begining of getting her the proper help. And a light and releaf I finially have an answer its not because i'm a bad parent or she is a bad kid. </p><p> </p><p>she was in hospital for a week, first 2 days was to save her life, after we got her physical better then we started working on her mentaly. she was in the phyc ward of childrens hospital for the rest of the week. Then we entered her in a program with the hospital she is their for 10days she has 5 days left to go. And they started her on concerta. She has been fine all week. </p><p> </p><p>This weekend I was ready to ring her neck. It took everything I had not to scream at her. It will escalate the odd. 2 of her girlfriends came over. She wanted to go over to the one girls house I said fine be home no later then 10:00pm. That means be in this house no later. 10pm rolls around she is not home I call the cell phone and she said oh I decided to stay the night. I told her no, you need to ask before not when you are already supposed to be home. So we went back and forth on the phone. I finially gave in (bad move on my part I should of went to the house and picked her up myself. She ended up walking home at 1am because she didnt feel good. Her friends walked her home (so she tells me). </p><p> </p><p>Sunday she say's I"m going with so and so to kmart. she is 19yrs this girl and goes to my sons youth group so I didnt think anything of it. My daughter calls me later and tell me where she is I said be home by 9am no later. She says no bring me my shoes. No i'm not bringing you another pair of shoes you have a pair on. I dont want to wear thoughts. Back to the subject. Be in this house no later. No i'm going out to eat with the 19yr at friendlys. I might come home you are being a B*t*h. F*&^ Y890 she says to me. Called me back 5 times. Cusing at me. 10:15 rolls around I call her again where are you. I'm at so and so's house why didnt the 19yr old bring you home because I told her to drop me off here. come and get me in 20 mins. No i'm coming now. What ever B*t*(.</p><p> </p><p>off to work i will be back later. I have to go to work sorry.</p><p>Charmed</p><p> </p><p>ok I'm back sorry. I took her to PHP today when we left she said I will take my medications later. I brought them with me. I went in with her when I dropped her off to talk to her counclor. She gave difficult child a chance to tell her side of the weekend first she refused, so it was my turn and off course difficult child didnt like what I was saying and the dr. told her you had your chance its you mom's turn. She said I should of went to pick her up instead of letting her stay. And I should of picked her up from friendlys ok my bad lesson learned. Dr. told me she was heading the group today and she was going to push difficult child to tell the group what she did. Well difficult child didnt get the response or back up from the her peers in the group. They couldnt believe she spoke to me like that. Their responses were I wish my mom would set limits for me. My mom would of beat the **** out of me if I talked like that. etc.. she was speachless when she realized they were not on her side by mad at the way she handled her self.. The dr. said she didnt have to say a word, her peers said it all to her. this php program she can only stay in if she wants help, if she doesnt want it they wont keep her. She decided today to stay in the program for the rest of the week. Its ends friday. </p><p> </p><p>The dr. also told me to talk to her outside counsler for help for me to go see her. I need as much reforcements as I can get. And she also told me the next month is going to be the worst. and it will get alot worst before it gets better.. God help me. </p><p> </p><p>Oh this was good, my difficult child and my self sound exactly alike on the phone. Well this one number kept calling my phone so I answered it and no sooner I get done saying hello. On the other end of the phone I hear. I dont know who stole our ciggs and so and so's mom doesnt want anyone at the house because stuff is missing, because she doesnt know who did it. i said I can't believe someone stole my ciggs. she said I cant either i'm so mad.. Ok now i'm not thinking and I said who is this. They told me I said oh this is her mom. husband said I should of played along and see what other info I could of gotten out of her. She seems off guard that it was not difficult child.. </p><p> </p><p>I also know that when she is getting her period her odd is worst then normal, but I didnt realize she got her period this morning, that would explain the confrontation this weekend. I know its not an excuse. </p><p> </p><p>Jody good luck to you keep us posted and whats going on. it's my sanity coming here.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Charmedpea, post: 168196, member: 5404"] Hi and Welcome. I'm new here also. My 13yr difficult child daughter is also newly diagonsis with adhd and odd. for the last 2 years have been h*ll. she has been in a detention center for 3 days. Getting suspended from school detention for the last 2 years in school. Fast forward: 3 weeks ago she overdosed. That was the begining of getting her the proper help. And a light and releaf I finially have an answer its not because i'm a bad parent or she is a bad kid. she was in hospital for a week, first 2 days was to save her life, after we got her physical better then we started working on her mentaly. she was in the phyc ward of childrens hospital for the rest of the week. Then we entered her in a program with the hospital she is their for 10days she has 5 days left to go. And they started her on concerta. She has been fine all week. This weekend I was ready to ring her neck. It took everything I had not to scream at her. It will escalate the odd. 2 of her girlfriends came over. She wanted to go over to the one girls house I said fine be home no later then 10:00pm. That means be in this house no later. 10pm rolls around she is not home I call the cell phone and she said oh I decided to stay the night. I told her no, you need to ask before not when you are already supposed to be home. So we went back and forth on the phone. I finially gave in (bad move on my part I should of went to the house and picked her up myself. She ended up walking home at 1am because she didnt feel good. Her friends walked her home (so she tells me). Sunday she say's I"m going with so and so to kmart. she is 19yrs this girl and goes to my sons youth group so I didnt think anything of it. My daughter calls me later and tell me where she is I said be home by 9am no later. She says no bring me my shoes. No i'm not bringing you another pair of shoes you have a pair on. I dont want to wear thoughts. Back to the subject. Be in this house no later. No i'm going out to eat with the 19yr at friendlys. I might come home you are being a B*t*h. F*&^ Y890 she says to me. Called me back 5 times. Cusing at me. 10:15 rolls around I call her again where are you. I'm at so and so's house why didnt the 19yr old bring you home because I told her to drop me off here. come and get me in 20 mins. No i'm coming now. What ever B*t*(. off to work i will be back later. I have to go to work sorry. Charmed ok I'm back sorry. I took her to PHP today when we left she said I will take my medications later. I brought them with me. I went in with her when I dropped her off to talk to her counclor. She gave difficult child a chance to tell her side of the weekend first she refused, so it was my turn and off course difficult child didnt like what I was saying and the dr. told her you had your chance its you mom's turn. She said I should of went to pick her up instead of letting her stay. And I should of picked her up from friendlys ok my bad lesson learned. Dr. told me she was heading the group today and she was going to push difficult child to tell the group what she did. Well difficult child didnt get the response or back up from the her peers in the group. They couldnt believe she spoke to me like that. Their responses were I wish my mom would set limits for me. My mom would of beat the **** out of me if I talked like that. etc.. she was speachless when she realized they were not on her side by mad at the way she handled her self.. The dr. said she didnt have to say a word, her peers said it all to her. this php program she can only stay in if she wants help, if she doesnt want it they wont keep her. She decided today to stay in the program for the rest of the week. Its ends friday. The dr. also told me to talk to her outside counsler for help for me to go see her. I need as much reforcements as I can get. And she also told me the next month is going to be the worst. and it will get alot worst before it gets better.. God help me. Oh this was good, my difficult child and my self sound exactly alike on the phone. Well this one number kept calling my phone so I answered it and no sooner I get done saying hello. On the other end of the phone I hear. I dont know who stole our ciggs and so and so's mom doesnt want anyone at the house because stuff is missing, because she doesnt know who did it. i said I can't believe someone stole my ciggs. she said I cant either i'm so mad.. Ok now i'm not thinking and I said who is this. They told me I said oh this is her mom. husband said I should of played along and see what other info I could of gotten out of her. She seems off guard that it was not difficult child.. I also know that when she is getting her period her odd is worst then normal, but I didnt realize she got her period this morning, that would explain the confrontation this weekend. I know its not an excuse. Jody good luck to you keep us posted and whats going on. it's my sanity coming here. [/QUOTE]
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