New here help with pre-school teachers, please

[RachinOhio]

Hello, I have a 5 year old step-son who we are going through the diagnosis stage with right now, he has ADHD we do know that, I am now thinking with no doubt that ODD. Anyhow, he has been having serious issues at pre-school with lying. Example.. He told his teacher the other day that "he has a gun in his room, and it is a real one" they start questioning us, obviously but they have apparently had it over there head with his bad behavior, he is only good for one of the teachers there on a constant basis. But how do we get them to stop looking down their noses at him? and us? we are not bad parents, I have tried diets, I have tried a lot of different methods and it seems like nothing is working. I feel bad for SS because he is suffering the most, but we are all going crazy, any advice would be appreicated.
Rachel

 

[4sumrzn]

Hi!!! I just want to say "welcome" from one newbie to another. I know there will be quite a bit of advice coming along for you & I'm sorry I don't have advice at the moment to offer...I'm learning myself. You've found a great place :rudolph:

 

[Hound dog]

Welcome to the board.

You can request for your son to have an IEP. This will give him special services with the school according to his needs via his dxes. You can find more info on IEPs and such over in the Special Education forum.

Since you're in ohio, you can contact your county health dept. and ask to have ss evaled with the early intervention program. Since he is still in preschool I don't think he's too old.

This is a complete evaluation including any possible learning disorders and neurological disorders, ect. It's free of charge and the specialists they have are awesome.

Hugs

 

[RachinOhio]

Thx all of this is just getting so frustrating, I am so glad that I found a place where other people understand the situations that we face. SS's Dr. is doing a group of testing once a week until we come up with a diagnosis and in the mean time I am sure I will be here asking for advice.
Thanks for the warm welcome./\

 

[Big Bad Kitty]

Hi Rach, sorry I did not see your post earlier. I really try to at least say hi to a newcomer, even if I don't have much in the way of advice.

Not that you are going to like lose sleep over it or anything...

Anyways, welcome to the board. If nothing else, the fact that I am posting to you will bump this up to the top of the list, and maybe others will see it. It kinda got buried.

Your story is not unlike soooo many others here on this board. You certainly found a safe place to land, and a place where you can feel like you belong. I would like to make a couple suggestions to you.

When you get advice, take what works and leave the rest. Nobody here is judging you.

Do us a favor, and make a signature for yourself. We get SO many new people that it is hard to keep track of who is who. Go to the FAQ forum to see how.

I am so sorry that you are going through a tough time with your son. Have you read "The Explosive Child?" Highly recommend it. Written by Ross Greene. Get your hands on it YESTERDAY.

Again, welcome.

 

[caryatid]

Hello there!

I'm a preschool/Kindregarten teacher, and your SS sounds like a few of my students last year. :smile:

You have all my sympathy in dealing with the diagnosis stage of things, we are there too.

If I might offer some advice on dealing with the teachers?
Be honest, express your concerns, and be open about discussing the diagnosis process/treatment, etc.. Engage them in helping your son.

If there is one teacher that he will behave for, great! (Don't think of it as "only" one.) Talk to that teacher and try to encourage the bonding. My co-teacher and I try not to play favorites, but there are some kids that just click with us, and some that don't. The fact that Student-A is attached at my co-teacher's hip doesn't bother me any more than the fact that Student-B won't do any work for her, but will take lessons from me.

RE: looking down their noses....
This is where the patience and honesty come in. Talk to them openly about the situation and engage them. If you haven't tried it, take a moment and say "Hey, thanks for all your patience with my SS. I know he is a handful, and we are working really hard on trying to help him. If you wouldn't mind, it would really be helpful if you could..." (chart good days, make note of when his behavior gets worse, etc...) Some of their frustration may come from a feeling of helplessness.

If their attitude doesn't change, then you always have the option of going someplace else. You deserve to have your SS in a place that is safe, welcoming, and willing to communicate.