Hi everyone. I have a sixteen year old daughter who has been diagnosed ADHD/ODD. In the past year, my daughter has been arrested for shoplifting, took a friend's car after drinking alcohol and smashed it into a tree. Once I caught her at a friend's house drinking. She jumped on me, knocked me down and punched me in the back of the head several times. She has been through a treatment program. We have seen counselors and psychiatriasts. She seemed to be better on medications, but she started refusing to take them, pretending to take them, handing them out to friends, etc. I'm a single mom and all of things are not easily affordable, and we are about to lose our health insurance. Every day is a nightmare with this child. She cusses at me, throws fits, manipulates, lies, steals out of my purse. She's stolen her brothers wii games and remotes, probably to sell and get money for pot. Nothing is out of bounds for her. She does whatever she wants, and I am continually in awe and shock of her behavior. This sounds awful, but it's hard to even just be around her. She is hostile, angry and disrespectful. She has an excuse for every rule she breaks, and it is never EVER her fault. She says horrible things to me and doesn't seem to have any kind of conscience at all. Her dad is no help at all and enables her. He is giving her a car, and lord help us, that is the last thing she needs. I just need to be able to talk to someone. I have been secretive of her behavior and the things she's done because I'm embarassed and ashamed. I feel so much shame and guilt to have raised a child who has turned out like this. I want to LIKE her... I want to be proud of her. It's very, very difficult.