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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 301829" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Welcome! I am glad you have joined us!!!</p><p></p><p>The first thing you should do is arrange to have him fully evaluated. It can be extremely hard to identify learning disabilities and many other problems as well. I have a cousin who could not READ in 3rd grade. No one knew. It really shook all our family. He had been memorizing. He has a phenomenal memory, to put it lightly (something HIS daughter's have lamented, LOL)</p><p></p><p>I think you should start writing a Parent Report. If you go to the FAQ/Board Help section you will see a thread titled Parent Input/Multidisciplinary Evaluation. It contains an outline that parents here devised so that we could keep all the info about our kids in one binder. That way you can answer all those questions on the forms for the doctors, and you can give docs and therapists the parts of that info that they need.</p><p></p><p>The evaluations may seem daunting. While they are not fun, they ARE a way to help your child learn and grow and become a healthy person. Many of his traits remind me of Wiz, my oldest (he has Asperger's a very high functioning form of autism). </p><p></p><p>The video games have got to go. Since he is breaking them and has rages/tantrums when they don't go well, it may be that he is developing an obsession. That could be Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) but it also could be part of something else. Most Aspies have obsessions. We thought Wiz' obsession with dinosaurs was cute when he was 4 and corrected a display at the Natural History Museum. The curator we spoke to is a big time expert in dinosaurs. He went and researched it while we were in the Museum and then thanked Wiz and took a picture to put up near the display. (A friend just called me to ask if that was him - she sure thought it LOOKED like him but wanted to check!).</p><p></p><p>When the dinosaurs got really intense, then morphed into a pokemon obsession it got scary. Everything was pokemon. NO topic existed that didn't have pokemon. He even once tried to run away to go to Japan to find the "real" pokemon. He was 13 at that point!!</p><p></p><p>When you remove the video games your son WILL go through a withdrawal period. It is scary and not any fun. You will be shocked at how much it has taken over your child when he starts the withdrawal. But it is important.</p><p></p><p>If you leave the video games then your son's world will continue to narrow until there is NOTHING of import in his life other than the games. My guess is that you are close to this point. I told all of my kids that if something motivated them to cheat, lie, steal, intimidate family members or become violent then that item needed to leave. My kids were still given the responsibility for their behavior but when they couldn't moderate things the item needed to disappear. </p><p></p><p>I have not had any therapist or psychiatrist disagree. One therapist now has it written and framed for other people to see.</p><p></p><p>It will mean that NONE of the kids play the video game. It won't hurt any of them.</p><p></p><p>Call for those evaluations (neuropsychologist are highly favored because they do intensive testing and can be more specific than many docs).</p><p></p><p>Start on a Parent Report. </p><p></p><p>Speak to your hubby and plan when and how you will put the video games up. If you have handheld ones like the gameboy they can be saved to use in doctor's offices and long drives and waiting rooms. It is best to eliminate them totally. Barring that, make sure the games are as educational as possible and only use them for special events.</p><p></p><p>He should also be evaluated by an Occupational Therapist for sensory integration disorder (Sensory Integration Disorder (SID)). This is the name for when a child cannot process input from the senses in a typical way. You do NOT want a school system to do this. They won't look at his entire life, just for how Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) affects his academics. Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) is one of the few things that can be treated with-o medicine. the brushing therapy used is proven to create new pathways in the brain so that the input can be handled more effectively. The bible on this is "The Out Of Sync Child" by Kranowitz. She also has a book called "The Out of Sync Child Has Fun - it is packed with activities to help all sorts of the problems. Many have directions to keep the cost as low as possible. The entire family will like many of teh activities.</p><p></p><p>With Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) you can look at things your child likes to do and often you will find those are exactly what will treat whatever Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) problems manifest. It is one way to let your child show you what he needs. When our Occupational Therapist (OT) gave me a list of things that would help my youngest's problems we were already doing over 80&#37; of the activities. So we let him guide us to help his problems. </p><p></p><p>Welcome, many gentle hugs for the entire family! Tell those girls to be strong and maybe put locks on their doors or on a storage cabinet so he cannot destroy their things.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 301829, member: 1233"] Welcome! I am glad you have joined us!!! The first thing you should do is arrange to have him fully evaluated. It can be extremely hard to identify learning disabilities and many other problems as well. I have a cousin who could not READ in 3rd grade. No one knew. It really shook all our family. He had been memorizing. He has a phenomenal memory, to put it lightly (something HIS daughter's have lamented, LOL) I think you should start writing a Parent Report. If you go to the FAQ/Board Help section you will see a thread titled Parent Input/Multidisciplinary Evaluation. It contains an outline that parents here devised so that we could keep all the info about our kids in one binder. That way you can answer all those questions on the forms for the doctors, and you can give docs and therapists the parts of that info that they need. The evaluations may seem daunting. While they are not fun, they ARE a way to help your child learn and grow and become a healthy person. Many of his traits remind me of Wiz, my oldest (he has Asperger's a very high functioning form of autism). The video games have got to go. Since he is breaking them and has rages/tantrums when they don't go well, it may be that he is developing an obsession. That could be Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) but it also could be part of something else. Most Aspies have obsessions. We thought Wiz' obsession with dinosaurs was cute when he was 4 and corrected a display at the Natural History Museum. The curator we spoke to is a big time expert in dinosaurs. He went and researched it while we were in the Museum and then thanked Wiz and took a picture to put up near the display. (A friend just called me to ask if that was him - she sure thought it LOOKED like him but wanted to check!). When the dinosaurs got really intense, then morphed into a pokemon obsession it got scary. Everything was pokemon. NO topic existed that didn't have pokemon. He even once tried to run away to go to Japan to find the "real" pokemon. He was 13 at that point!! When you remove the video games your son WILL go through a withdrawal period. It is scary and not any fun. You will be shocked at how much it has taken over your child when he starts the withdrawal. But it is important. If you leave the video games then your son's world will continue to narrow until there is NOTHING of import in his life other than the games. My guess is that you are close to this point. I told all of my kids that if something motivated them to cheat, lie, steal, intimidate family members or become violent then that item needed to leave. My kids were still given the responsibility for their behavior but when they couldn't moderate things the item needed to disappear. I have not had any therapist or psychiatrist disagree. One therapist now has it written and framed for other people to see. It will mean that NONE of the kids play the video game. It won't hurt any of them. Call for those evaluations (neuropsychologist are highly favored because they do intensive testing and can be more specific than many docs). Start on a Parent Report. Speak to your hubby and plan when and how you will put the video games up. If you have handheld ones like the gameboy they can be saved to use in doctor's offices and long drives and waiting rooms. It is best to eliminate them totally. Barring that, make sure the games are as educational as possible and only use them for special events. He should also be evaluated by an Occupational Therapist for sensory integration disorder (Sensory Integration Disorder (SID)). This is the name for when a child cannot process input from the senses in a typical way. You do NOT want a school system to do this. They won't look at his entire life, just for how Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) affects his academics. Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) is one of the few things that can be treated with-o medicine. the brushing therapy used is proven to create new pathways in the brain so that the input can be handled more effectively. The bible on this is "The Out Of Sync Child" by Kranowitz. She also has a book called "The Out of Sync Child Has Fun - it is packed with activities to help all sorts of the problems. Many have directions to keep the cost as low as possible. The entire family will like many of teh activities. With Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) you can look at things your child likes to do and often you will find those are exactly what will treat whatever Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) problems manifest. It is one way to let your child show you what he needs. When our Occupational Therapist (OT) gave me a list of things that would help my youngest's problems we were already doing over 80% of the activities. So we let him guide us to help his problems. Welcome, many gentle hugs for the entire family! Tell those girls to be strong and maybe put locks on their doors or on a storage cabinet so he cannot destroy their things. [/QUOTE]
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