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<blockquote data-quote="Farmwife" data-source="post: 385436" data-attributes="member: 8617"><p>Welcome, sorry you had to join us.</p><p> </p><p>I don't have a lot of suggestions as my difficult child is much older. I do want to offer some empathy. Your post describes my 16 year old boy monster perfectly. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/sick.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":sick:" title="sick :sick:" data-shortname=":sick:" /></p><p> </p><p>There are no fast or easy answers, I know that is sort of deflating because you probably came to this site much like many of us...in a moment of desperation. What you have stumbled into though is a wealth of resources, ideas and people who believe and understand what you are talking about. That perfect angel in public and demon at home where no one else sees it thing...yeah, we get it.</p><p> </p><p>Some days I come here ready to blurt out how awful things are and then I see someone else has it worse, much worse. It puts things in perspective. I don't mean to minimize your plight at all, sometimes it just helps to see someone else surviving what you are going through. There are good days and there are bad. It's a roller coaster ride for sure. The most important part is...</p><p> </p><p>You are in the right place and you are headed in the right direction. The light may be at the end of a long tunnel but it's there. Expect setbacks and dissapointments along the way. Take the quiet moments to regroup and destress if possible. Easier said than done, I know. We all pretty much make do through some awful times. We didn't ask for this and our kids certainly didn't either.</p><p> </p><p>The most important thing, something I suspect many here will ditto is a good solid diagnosis. Find a good doctor, not easy and get moving toward solutions. Get a neuropsychologist evaluation. That is a long waiting list sort of deal and very pricey if your insurance is limited. However, it is a priceless tool. It won't cure anything but it gives you a microscoping in depth image of what your child is underneath all of the confusion. I wish wish wish I had known to get one years ago. Take that giant leap and it will make a world of difference. I promise you will be glad you did.</p><p> </p><p>Everyone here sings the praises of the book you have and I am in the middle of reading it myself.</p><p> </p><p>Please consider a signature line. It helps everyone keep your and your difficult child's details in order.</p><p> </p><p>People will ask lots of questions in here like how your difficult child does in school, socially, how she responds to stress, memory issues, learning delays? ect. ect...all sorts of stuff. We don't mean to pry but many parents on here have kids a lot like yours so the more you share in detail the more we all can narrow down who has more in common and more to share with you. you would be surprised who has a "twin" to your difficult child and what they have already learned works for them.</p><p> </p><p>Again, welcome. You landed in a great place. Be patient though...<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Farmwife, post: 385436, member: 8617"] Welcome, sorry you had to join us. I don't have a lot of suggestions as my difficult child is much older. I do want to offer some empathy. Your post describes my 16 year old boy monster perfectly. :sick: There are no fast or easy answers, I know that is sort of deflating because you probably came to this site much like many of us...in a moment of desperation. What you have stumbled into though is a wealth of resources, ideas and people who believe and understand what you are talking about. That perfect angel in public and demon at home where no one else sees it thing...yeah, we get it. Some days I come here ready to blurt out how awful things are and then I see someone else has it worse, much worse. It puts things in perspective. I don't mean to minimize your plight at all, sometimes it just helps to see someone else surviving what you are going through. There are good days and there are bad. It's a roller coaster ride for sure. The most important part is... You are in the right place and you are headed in the right direction. The light may be at the end of a long tunnel but it's there. Expect setbacks and dissapointments along the way. Take the quiet moments to regroup and destress if possible. Easier said than done, I know. We all pretty much make do through some awful times. We didn't ask for this and our kids certainly didn't either. The most important thing, something I suspect many here will ditto is a good solid diagnosis. Find a good doctor, not easy and get moving toward solutions. Get a neuropsychologist evaluation. That is a long waiting list sort of deal and very pricey if your insurance is limited. However, it is a priceless tool. It won't cure anything but it gives you a microscoping in depth image of what your child is underneath all of the confusion. I wish wish wish I had known to get one years ago. Take that giant leap and it will make a world of difference. I promise you will be glad you did. Everyone here sings the praises of the book you have and I am in the middle of reading it myself. Please consider a signature line. It helps everyone keep your and your difficult child's details in order. People will ask lots of questions in here like how your difficult child does in school, socially, how she responds to stress, memory issues, learning delays? ect. ect...all sorts of stuff. We don't mean to pry but many parents on here have kids a lot like yours so the more you share in detail the more we all can narrow down who has more in common and more to share with you. you would be surprised who has a "twin" to your difficult child and what they have already learned works for them. Again, welcome. You landed in a great place. Be patient though...:winking: [/QUOTE]
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