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<blockquote data-quote="Circetay" data-source="post: 386100"><p>Hi Jo, hope you had a good day! We did. husband even commented that he felt like he was in the twilight zone. difficult child was so good today, and we averted several meltdowns. Not sure if it's because we are reacting differently or just a fluke but it was nice.</p><p></p><p>I can't believe how similar we are! What sort of routine are you trying to stick to? I've been on Adderall for only a month or so. I tried Dexedrine and Ritalin prior but neither worked very well. Adderall is the first one that doesn't impact my mood or cut my appetite completely. The only routine I follow right now is one that involves housework and de-cluttering. I think it helps with my anxiety too. Keeps me busy, I love to clean when anxious and my house is looking better and better.</p><p></p><p>I've never really thought of my sensitivities but I think I do have some. I have an issue with noise. If there is noise that I can't control or do anything about I tend to focus on it and get very anxious. It used to happen often with my neighbour playing loud music. I could hear the bass through the walls and it would drive me crazy. husband used to tell me to just ignore it or turn the tv up but it was all that I could hear. I often ask the kids or husband to turn down the tv if i'm doing something but when i'm the one watching it's not an issue? I love to feel cocooned. When I go to bed, husband has a hard time getting the covers out from under me. I tend to roll into them until I'm covered to my ears and only then do I feel safe and warm.</p><p></p><p>I know that for me, self care has always been difficult. I don't have a very strong sense of self and have found my worth by being there for other people. The problem with that is that it takes away from taking care of myself, since i'm taking care of everyone else. I'm also a stay at home mom so I put a lot of pressure on myself to make sure that everything is done. That the house is clean, dinner is cooked etc. I sort of feel that it's my "job". I had a breakdown of sorts this summer and have started asking husband for more help around the house. I feel terribly guilty, but I feel like he has a responsibility too. He lives here, and I don't think it's too much to ask that he help more. He doesn't always agree, but we're working on it. Now I just have to learn to let go when things aren't done my way, or to my specifications. And yes I realize how awful that sounds. I am a control freak and perfectionist, it's who I am. Unfortunately it also works against me. I have yet to notice the edge, or when I'm getting close to it until it's too late <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Circetay, post: 386100"] Hi Jo, hope you had a good day! We did. husband even commented that he felt like he was in the twilight zone. difficult child was so good today, and we averted several meltdowns. Not sure if it's because we are reacting differently or just a fluke but it was nice. I can't believe how similar we are! What sort of routine are you trying to stick to? I've been on Adderall for only a month or so. I tried Dexedrine and Ritalin prior but neither worked very well. Adderall is the first one that doesn't impact my mood or cut my appetite completely. The only routine I follow right now is one that involves housework and de-cluttering. I think it helps with my anxiety too. Keeps me busy, I love to clean when anxious and my house is looking better and better. I've never really thought of my sensitivities but I think I do have some. I have an issue with noise. If there is noise that I can't control or do anything about I tend to focus on it and get very anxious. It used to happen often with my neighbour playing loud music. I could hear the bass through the walls and it would drive me crazy. husband used to tell me to just ignore it or turn the tv up but it was all that I could hear. I often ask the kids or husband to turn down the tv if i'm doing something but when i'm the one watching it's not an issue? I love to feel cocooned. When I go to bed, husband has a hard time getting the covers out from under me. I tend to roll into them until I'm covered to my ears and only then do I feel safe and warm. I know that for me, self care has always been difficult. I don't have a very strong sense of self and have found my worth by being there for other people. The problem with that is that it takes away from taking care of myself, since i'm taking care of everyone else. I'm also a stay at home mom so I put a lot of pressure on myself to make sure that everything is done. That the house is clean, dinner is cooked etc. I sort of feel that it's my "job". I had a breakdown of sorts this summer and have started asking husband for more help around the house. I feel terribly guilty, but I feel like he has a responsibility too. He lives here, and I don't think it's too much to ask that he help more. He doesn't always agree, but we're working on it. Now I just have to learn to let go when things aren't done my way, or to my specifications. And yes I realize how awful that sounds. I am a control freak and perfectionist, it's who I am. Unfortunately it also works against me. I have yet to notice the edge, or when I'm getting close to it until it's too late :( [/QUOTE]
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