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<blockquote data-quote="teatime" data-source="post: 530546" data-attributes="member: 14613"><p>I'm so sorry! Sending big hugs to you! My son was/is the same way and now he's 24. The only advice I can give you is not to push college at this point. He'll probably get his diploma (mine did the same exact thing and he finished up, got his diploma) and he may tell you that he does want to go to college and he'll change there. Mine didn't. He wasted a lot of time and money and never got a degree. And now he has defaulted on a bunch of student loans.</p><p></p><p>You may have to let him go off on his own, sink or swim. I honestly thought mine was doing fine in college because I never received letters or anything that would lead me to believe he wasn't. When I discovered the truth, it blew me away. And now he has dug himself a huge hole it will be hard to climb out of. He was living a lie. Your son may rise to the occasion and surprise you by how much he will change or he may fail and lead a sad existence. But he's got to decide for himself.</p><p></p><p>My son is still struggling and I am in no position to offer a lot of advice to others, lol. Heck, I have no idea what's going to become of him. But if I could have done one thing over, it would have been to NOT encourage him to go to a big university, even though he was admitted. He wasn't ready, he didn't have the motivation or commitment, and it was the first wrong choice in a series of bad choices and situations since he was 18.</p><p></p><p>I wish you all of the best!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="teatime, post: 530546, member: 14613"] I'm so sorry! Sending big hugs to you! My son was/is the same way and now he's 24. The only advice I can give you is not to push college at this point. He'll probably get his diploma (mine did the same exact thing and he finished up, got his diploma) and he may tell you that he does want to go to college and he'll change there. Mine didn't. He wasted a lot of time and money and never got a degree. And now he has defaulted on a bunch of student loans. You may have to let him go off on his own, sink or swim. I honestly thought mine was doing fine in college because I never received letters or anything that would lead me to believe he wasn't. When I discovered the truth, it blew me away. And now he has dug himself a huge hole it will be hard to climb out of. He was living a lie. Your son may rise to the occasion and surprise you by how much he will change or he may fail and lead a sad existence. But he's got to decide for himself. My son is still struggling and I am in no position to offer a lot of advice to others, lol. Heck, I have no idea what's going to become of him. But if I could have done one thing over, it would have been to NOT encourage him to go to a big university, even though he was admitted. He wasn't ready, he didn't have the motivation or commitment, and it was the first wrong choice in a series of bad choices and situations since he was 18. I wish you all of the best! [/QUOTE]
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