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New here: need advice on what to do with 18 year old son
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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 530784" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Welcome to the board. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>The best way you can help your son.........is to let him deal with whatever natural consequences come from the decisions he makes. </p><p></p><p>You've dealt with addiction before. The same applies to your son. But it's harder because he is so much younger and our impulse is to rush in and rescue. As long as he's using drugs, any help you are tempted to offer should be thoroughly examined to be certain it won't enable his addiction or the behavior associated with it. (like I will offer you a home cooked meal, but I won't give you cash to buy food)</p><p></p><p>At 18, we begin to learn the detachment process. We've spend the years up to this point teaching them and guiding them, and it's up to them once they reach adulthood. </p><p></p><p>What you can do is decide the rules for an adult child living in your home, what behavior is and is not acceptable and the consequences for unacceptable behavior. But make certain you will be able to carry out those consequences when push comes to shove. </p><p></p><p>((hugs))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 530784, member: 84"] Welcome to the board. :) The best way you can help your son.........is to let him deal with whatever natural consequences come from the decisions he makes. You've dealt with addiction before. The same applies to your son. But it's harder because he is so much younger and our impulse is to rush in and rescue. As long as he's using drugs, any help you are tempted to offer should be thoroughly examined to be certain it won't enable his addiction or the behavior associated with it. (like I will offer you a home cooked meal, but I won't give you cash to buy food) At 18, we begin to learn the detachment process. We've spend the years up to this point teaching them and guiding them, and it's up to them once they reach adulthood. What you can do is decide the rules for an adult child living in your home, what behavior is and is not acceptable and the consequences for unacceptable behavior. But make certain you will be able to carry out those consequences when push comes to shove. ((hugs)) [/QUOTE]
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