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New here: need advice on what to do with 18 year old son
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 531279" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Yeesh!</p><p></p><p>Unless an adult child is truly mentally incompetent, A minor child is one thing, but not a child who is over 18. I am not in favor of walking on eggshells around one or living our older years under the threat of discourse or worse from an adult difficult child. The only thing in my opinion to make an adult child who still acts like a child and is abusive grow up is to give them a timeline for leaving. If the adult is incapable of living independently, there are group homes and other services. But how many years can we give up when our grown chldren will not let us have any peace? I belielve we all deserve peace and harmony in our lives and eventually even our disabled children need to go elsewhere for primary care.</p><p></p><p>My daughter tells me all the time that she may not have quit drugs or gotten her life on track if she had not been forced out. Yes, I cried for three straight weeks after she was gone, but seeing her now...with a college diploma, her own home, and a good career...I am happy I took the tough love path. In her opinion, it is not a good thing to coddle adult kids...they stay kids! Per her <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 531279, member: 1550"] Yeesh! Unless an adult child is truly mentally incompetent, A minor child is one thing, but not a child who is over 18. I am not in favor of walking on eggshells around one or living our older years under the threat of discourse or worse from an adult difficult child. The only thing in my opinion to make an adult child who still acts like a child and is abusive grow up is to give them a timeline for leaving. If the adult is incapable of living independently, there are group homes and other services. But how many years can we give up when our grown chldren will not let us have any peace? I belielve we all deserve peace and harmony in our lives and eventually even our disabled children need to go elsewhere for primary care. My daughter tells me all the time that she may not have quit drugs or gotten her life on track if she had not been forced out. Yes, I cried for three straight weeks after she was gone, but seeing her now...with a college diploma, her own home, and a good career...I am happy I took the tough love path. In her opinion, it is not a good thing to coddle adult kids...they stay kids! Per her :) [/QUOTE]
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