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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 453847" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Hmm. </p><p></p><p>Is he by chance paying you rent for his room and board? If not, his staying with you IS a payoff, it gives him more funds to party. Just something to think about if you haven't already. </p><p></p><p> </p><p></p><p>Ohhh, my bff drug that one out until she was so far gone there was no coming back. That one and "I'm working so it can't be a problem" or "I'm a good mom, so I don't have real problem" or about a dozen others. Sometimes we can be very good at lying to ourselves.</p><p></p><p>The school year is due to start soon. Does he have all his paperwork in order or enrolled in classes ect? I gave my kids guidance on what I could, but the work was up to them. If they had a question I couldn't answer, which actually was a lot of the time, it was up to them to call and ask, fill out the proper paperwork, the whole deal.</p><p></p><p>And no. No one wants to throw good money away, yet how are you going to know if he really wants this education if he's not able to try? </p><p></p><p>I dunno. I can't tell you what to do. But I know that if he were in my home and using, adult or not, he would not longer be in my home or he'd stop using. Because otherwise, in my opinion, it's condoning the behavior regardless of what your words say. And if, heaven forbid, he bring it into your home and get caught......you get into as much trouble as he does.</p><p></p><p>That for me would be my bottom line. Stop using or live elsewhere.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 453847, member: 84"] Hmm. Is he by chance paying you rent for his room and board? If not, his staying with you IS a payoff, it gives him more funds to party. Just something to think about if you haven't already. Ohhh, my bff drug that one out until she was so far gone there was no coming back. That one and "I'm working so it can't be a problem" or "I'm a good mom, so I don't have real problem" or about a dozen others. Sometimes we can be very good at lying to ourselves. The school year is due to start soon. Does he have all his paperwork in order or enrolled in classes ect? I gave my kids guidance on what I could, but the work was up to them. If they had a question I couldn't answer, which actually was a lot of the time, it was up to them to call and ask, fill out the proper paperwork, the whole deal. And no. No one wants to throw good money away, yet how are you going to know if he really wants this education if he's not able to try? I dunno. I can't tell you what to do. But I know that if he were in my home and using, adult or not, he would not longer be in my home or he'd stop using. Because otherwise, in my opinion, it's condoning the behavior regardless of what your words say. And if, heaven forbid, he bring it into your home and get caught......you get into as much trouble as he does. That for me would be my bottom line. Stop using or live elsewhere. [/QUOTE]
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