Forgive me for not knowing all of the cool lingo yet, I will get there, I promise. __________________________________ My oldest DS was diagnosed at the age of 5 with bipolar disorder (BD) and ADHD. There was no fancy evaluation done, he was diagnosed through family history (my brother is "suspected" of having BD, but no one has officially diagnosed him). DS has taken several medications throughout the years trying to alleviate the BD symptoms. However, nothing worked for him and it was noted that the behaviors remained the same regardless of if he was taking medications for it or not. He has since been taken off of BD medications. He currently takes Focalin xr (20mg) for his ADHD issues. The Focalin works for him to an extent, but there are obviously more issues going on with him as he still has violent tendencies. Most recently, he told teachers at school that he wanted to kill my nephew because "he got on his nerves" and described how he would go about performing the act (stab him and throw him in a dumpster). I am at a loss with this child. I love him dearly, but the things that he says and does make it very difficult to bond with him. We currently have an IEP in place at school, and he's responding well with it, but I'm wondering if a residential facility might be better suited for him based on his anger and aggression. When he's home - it's hell here. It's aggravating that he can go to school for 6 hours, be relatively behaved, then come home and take all of his frustrations and anger out on us. I guess my question is - how do I go about having him PROPERLY evaluated and properly diagnosed (because I honestly don't believe that ADHD is his only problem)? I'm basically starting from scratch with him and I don't know where to start. Thanks in advance!