Hi, I have 3 young children, girl aged 6, boy age 3 and boy aged 2. My 3 year old boy is causing problems, i'm not sure if he has a problem but I feel like I am failing him. Its not so much that he is naughty but I find him extremly controling, clingy defiant and arguementative. He does not respond to disipline, if I shout he shouts back, if I try to reward good behaviour he just does not care whether or not he gets the reward. If I put him on the naughty step he will stay there but he tells me he wont sit he will lay on it. He constantly destroys games and toys even if they are his own. He is bullying and controlling to his siblings and lately when I tell him off he says that I dont like him. Most days I feel at the end of the day that I have been picking on him and I feel guilty, but my other children just do not behave like he does. I feel very claustrophobic. At school his teachers say he is kind and quiet but he has latched on to one little girl & constantly follows her around. It seems to me that he is insecure in some way but he gets more attention than the others because he demands so much of our time. He is a very loving, cuddly little boy and is wonderful on a one to one basis. If he upsets his siblings he then gets extremly sad because they wont play with him. I've always been very good with kids and it hurts me to say that I really dont know how to deal with him. I'm probably too soft but this behaviour is not present in all my children so it cant be all my fault can it? Any advice would be greatly appreciated, please help!