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<blockquote data-quote="AppleCori" data-source="post: 586834" data-attributes="member: 16024"><p>Yem, </p><p></p><p>It's not that he doesn't want to talk about his feelings, its that he doesn't want to change his behavior--they way that he deals with his son (denial of any and all problems) and the way that he relates to you (denial of any and all problems, and if you disagree, you are the problem). Unless he realizes this and wants to work to change his behavior he won't ever change, and no woman will be willing to subject herself to that sort of treatment.</p><p></p><p>As for why you haven't been able to see it clearly--remember the old adage about the frog? </p><p></p><p>If you want to boil a frog, don't put it in boiling water or he will just jump out. Put it in lukewarm water, it gets comfortable, and then ever so slowly turn up the heat until it just boils to death, never the wiser. </p><p></p><p>Now, this probably doesn't really work with frogs, but it works with people pretty well. </p><p></p><p>Then one day, hopefully, we wake up and realize that the water is really hot. In fact it's about to boil us to death. And then we start to do something about it. Thats what you are doing. </p><p></p><p>Be Strong. </p><p></p><p>Keep us posted.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AppleCori, post: 586834, member: 16024"] Yem, It's not that he doesn't want to talk about his feelings, its that he doesn't want to change his behavior--they way that he deals with his son (denial of any and all problems) and the way that he relates to you (denial of any and all problems, and if you disagree, you are the problem). Unless he realizes this and wants to work to change his behavior he won't ever change, and no woman will be willing to subject herself to that sort of treatment. As for why you haven't been able to see it clearly--remember the old adage about the frog? If you want to boil a frog, don't put it in boiling water or he will just jump out. Put it in lukewarm water, it gets comfortable, and then ever so slowly turn up the heat until it just boils to death, never the wiser. Now, this probably doesn't really work with frogs, but it works with people pretty well. Then one day, hopefully, we wake up and realize that the water is really hot. In fact it's about to boil us to death. And then we start to do something about it. Thats what you are doing. Be Strong. Keep us posted. [/QUOTE]
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