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<blockquote data-quote="tiredmommy" data-source="post: 135877" data-attributes="member: 1722"><p>Hello Emma & welcome. Isn't it good to get that off your chest? </p><p> </p><p>My daughter is much younger and we are not facing the same issues (yet). One thing I can tell you is that you are running out of time, he may need to learn on his own at this point. The sad fact in this country is that parents have very little to use as leverage to get their teens to comply. Many members report that they can't get access to the medical records of kids as young fourteen due to HIPPA, schools seem to be actively pushing out these students and law enforcement tends to criminalize rather than help our kids. </p><p> </p><p>Is it possible that he has more going on than just conduct disorder (like that's not enough!)? Your post makes me think there may be an underlying mood disorder or something feeding his poor behavior.</p><p> </p><p>A little story from my childhood: my older cousin by four years ran away from home at fifteen (almost sixteen). My aunt and uncle were told by the police there was very little they could do. Cousin did a couch tour until she ran out of friends and showed up at our house. She was cold & hungry but still defiant about her parents. My father sent her away. He told me later it was the hardest thing he had ever done (they were very close) but that she would have no reason to return to her family if she were comfortable somewhere else. She had to learn that she belonged with the people that loved her most.</p><p> </p><p>She was home within the week.</p><p> </p><p>The moral of this story is that we can't make things to easy for our kids. My cousin was a first rate difficult child and very difficult. I swear she took years off her parents' lives and she very nearly cost them their marriage. But she is married, working, owns a car and owns a home. She decided against having children because she was afraid she wouldn't be a good parent due to her active bipolar disorder (the root of her problems). But she grew up and made a life for herself. A pretty good life. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="tiredmommy, post: 135877, member: 1722"] Hello Emma & welcome. Isn't it good to get that off your chest? My daughter is much younger and we are not facing the same issues (yet). One thing I can tell you is that you are running out of time, he may need to learn on his own at this point. The sad fact in this country is that parents have very little to use as leverage to get their teens to comply. Many members report that they can't get access to the medical records of kids as young fourteen due to HIPPA, schools seem to be actively pushing out these students and law enforcement tends to criminalize rather than help our kids. Is it possible that he has more going on than just conduct disorder (like that's not enough!)? Your post makes me think there may be an underlying mood disorder or something feeding his poor behavior. A little story from my childhood: my older cousin by four years ran away from home at fifteen (almost sixteen). My aunt and uncle were told by the police there was very little they could do. Cousin did a couch tour until she ran out of friends and showed up at our house. She was cold & hungry but still defiant about her parents. My father sent her away. He told me later it was the hardest thing he had ever done (they were very close) but that she would have no reason to return to her family if she were comfortable somewhere else. She had to learn that she belonged with the people that loved her most. She was home within the week. The moral of this story is that we can't make things to easy for our kids. My cousin was a first rate difficult child and very difficult. I swear she took years off her parents' lives and she very nearly cost them their marriage. But she is married, working, owns a car and owns a home. She decided against having children because she was afraid she wouldn't be a good parent due to her active bipolar disorder (the root of her problems). But she grew up and made a life for herself. A pretty good life. :) [/QUOTE]
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