Hello, I am new here. My ds is 4y 8m. His history: born full term, diagnosis with allergic collitis at age 6m, was on Neocate, Prevacid, Miralax until age 15m, took a while to eat solids due to swallowing problems from his reflux; Had 4 sets of tubes, had a cholesteatoma (middle ear tumor) removed at age 2 years, was fit with glasses at age 2 years; continues to have eczema. Has a VERY high pain threshold and currently complains of headaches. His personality: OMG. He's as sweet as he is mean. He is infuriating. I have been to a counselor about him - he's difficult to be around because he ***** the life out of the room. I suspect ODD and ADD. He will intentionally bother his brother or anyone else, he backtalks unbelievably, is disrespectful, and is vindicitive. He said he wishes we could just kill our dog because he barks so much. He's determined - he wanted to learn how to snap, so he practiced until he had blisters on his middle fingers, but can now snap. Taught himself to whistle; has amazing balance; very opinionated. Things he does: obsessive hand sniffing after touching anything, occasional hand flap when excited, hits, kicks, raises his hand to me when angry, punches the wall, stomps, name calls (currently, I am a meanie poopy head) -- does NONE of this at school. Disciplines: less talking to him (he knows why he is in trouble), time outs, ignoring or refusing to participate in verbal banter that is only bickering, letting him know my "no" is the "final answer', but he pushes my buttons so hard it's all I can do to walk away. He is infuriating beyond the norm. Because of his hx of allergies, my first step is return to the allergist to rule out other allergies. There appears to be no one in our area that can evaluate a child his age psychologically. I am really at a loss. I am happy to hear any suggestions.