I have 2 daughters, oldest is 10 and youngest is 8. My 10 yr old daughter is who I am concerned about at this moment. She has a diagnosis of adhd and . She has always been very hard to get along with. Her social skills are way off. She is annoying and thats ok for me to say (j/k) but it does hurt to hear others say that. Her and her sister don't get along and its mostly because of oldest daughter. She picks at you, annoys you, does things to get a reaction out of you, aggravates, makes obnoxious noises, if you have something that she would like to see- she can't be polite about it-- she will take it, has to be 1st when doing ANYTHING (even if it means a mad dash to make it happen) playing games, checking the mail, going into our house, taking the dog outside, giving him treats (its like our other daughter has to make a big up roar for her to be the one to do it that day -- whatever it is she would like to do) She has complained of not being able to get along with friends, or they pick on her or tell her to go away, make fun of her, knocking things off her desk etc. I have warned her many times that she has to be nice, polite and tried to help her understand that kids aren't going to like it if she annoys them by doing certain things. Our youngest daughter told me that no one likes our oldest daughter in afterschool care. Now its like, yep we warned her. The thing is I really think she can't help it. When you talk to her about things like any of the above she gets extremely upset and says "I was just playing." She love animals more than anything in the world!!!! You can just tell. She adores them. But she also can be mean to them. I think she is looking for a reaction out of anything! When she sees a yard full of birds... she runs to them saying "RAWR!!!" Like she is trying to scare them. Our dog, she love hims to pieces. My husband caught her being ugly to hi the other night. She would put her forearm in his mouth and hit him across the head with her other arm. He is a puppy, 8 mos old cocker/golden retriever. So she is on doggy restrictions. Can't feed, take him out, play with him, give him treats, rub him in the slightest and we told her we would get rid of him just like we did a cat several years ago for the same reason. So she knows we really will because we have before. Of course that isn't what I want to do but it isn't fair to him or her if she can't help it. here are some answers to a few questions I am sure you all will ask... she isn't on medication at this time. We tried about 5 diff medications and diff strengths 2 years ago and didn't see that any of them did anything positive for her. no insurance at this time so I limited to what I can do right now. She is on a waiting list for an excellant Dr in NC. They have scholarships, so she is on there waiting list. Whenever you talk to her about any of these behaviors, she gets very upset. She apologizes, like its going to wipe it all away.... Its almost like she can't control herself. She says that she forgets everything. She has a horrible memory! She tells me "but mom I really can't help it, I forgot!" Any1 with suggestions or answers if you are familiar with this behavior????